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Saturday

Loud Mouths and Know-It-Alls: Why Some Will Never Be Happy, Meet Goals

I will never forget when a non-black supervisor of mine shared with me why one black woman who worked in our department wouldn't get very far.  The young black woman had a master's degree in education and was actually a qualified candidate for a leadership program through our company.  Sure, the opportunity to go was there, but what would happen afterward was pretty much left to our non-black supervisor.  She could get a better more high paying position within, train others, or take her skills elsewhere.  But there was only one person who could really work for her, that is if she believed in her, and that was our non-black supervisor.

You see, our supervisor told me that the married mother of two was "immature" and "didn't know how to turn off certain talk and stay professional."  In other words, she was ghetto acting and because of that, she wouldn't get any further then her desk position, supervising a small team in a department that was often short of money.  I personally witnessed this woman take a man's head and put it in between her breasts and just shake.  I heard her talk down to some of the people she worked with.  She often had an attitude when she was criticized about her behavior.  She loved to gossip about things she had no firsthand information about.  She never bothered to really get to know you unless you were having some trouble.  Ms. Thang dressed the part too!  She had a nice wardrobe, but her loud laughing and talking made her look ugly.

Some of you know what I mean.  There probably is one or maybe two in your department who are just loud!  They know everything!  You can't tell them anything!  These kinds of folks need to be the center of attention as well as be the one who is "all up in your business."  Picture this, you walk into work and your co-worker says, "So how was your weekend?  You okay?  I heard you were supposed to be going out of town with your man.  I thought ya'll broke up.  I heard from...but it's okay, God will work it out."  What!?

Loud mouth black folks are more concerned about everyone else's personal lives more than their jobs.  They claim, "I am just helping..." when they are really saying, "I am just nosy!"  Some will even forewarn you that they are indeed busybodies.  "Girl, I love some good gossip!  You know I'm being nosey!"

So I think about that young woman who, in so many words, my supervisor warned me about some years ago and I learned later, after I left the job, that she was still in the same position and just as loud and nosy as ever!

Thursday

When We See Young People Doing Great Things, We Should Celebrate Them!

After reading the following article that appeared in the Pittsburgh Courier, one of the oldest black newspapers in the United States located in Pittsburgh PA, entitled Floating to the top, I thought about talented young people who are often overlooked by our own people. Some of us either know or belong to groups where people of influence exist, and yet the only thing that many of these people are influencing, is their personal agendas. What about the thousands of communities that are in need of improvement, schools, housing, stores, etc.? The young people living in some of these run-down towns gradually become disgruntled with their elders, because they don't understand why aren't the church, the school, the local business, or others doing anything to help?

Amber Liggett, of Beaver County PA, is one of those girls who isn't out here wearing the revealing clothes, talking ghetto, or standing on the corner with a group of friends talking about what mischief they are going to get into tonight. Instead, this teen has been moving and shaking wherever she goes with none other than balloons. That's right, I said balloons. Somehow some way, she found her passion and she is doing great things with it like bringing smiles to people's faces. You gotta love her for that!

I was moved by the article because I saw a young girl who was influenced by her mother and then later a community to keep her going in her dreams. It took everyone and everything in her inner circle to mold and shape her in such a positive way. Chances are there are children you know that are being influenced by everyone and everything in their inner circles to mold and shape them in such a negative way. Amber latched on to the positivity, not necessarily because she just grew up in a loving household, but it was given to her. Notice what I said? Given to her. If we can give children clothing, shoes, a basketball, or a gaming system, we can give them other gifts that they can't hold in their hands, right? Like a warm smile, an encouraging word, and the time and money to keep them busy and out of trouble. It is clear from this teen's presence on and off the Internet that she is growing into a young woman who will eventually be one of the elders, years from now, that will be sitting in an elitist circle somewhere totally capable of making a significant impact on the people and places around her.

Hopefully, Amber will learn some powerful lessons in her life that will motivate her not to run from the poor, hide behind a hedge house in Hollywood, or sit around old folks bad-mouthing the young. But rather, she will be one of those down-to-earth types who will embrace young, old, sick and tired, wealthy and poor from every walk of life. We have to challenge these young people to THINK. Put a bug in their ear, so to speak like the mother did in the article. Offer them a challenge. Tell them what you expect from them. Walk with them on their journeys in life!

As black people, we must "get it together!" Those of you who are spiritual may have already heard a sermon like this. Something that sounds like this, God is trying to tell you something. You are wasting too much time. Walking around saying what you are going to do, but never doing it. Spending too much time entertaining yourself with TV, radio, Internet, and more. Making excuses when you know you weren't busy in the first place. God wants your ears. This isn't any David and Goliath gospel to tickle your ears. God wants to know, when are you going to get it together? On your back is too late, young woman. On your back is too late, sick grandmother. When are you going to get it together? When you are in jail, out of jail? How about when the rent is due and the lights are off?

Know what are YOUR priorities in life outside of the circles and boxes that already have a plan for your life. We can start by reaching out to someone we know who can't do much for us except say, "Thank you." Maybe it is through them that we will learn a thing or two. Maybe that young person you keep driving by might hold an answer to something you have been grappling with. Maybe that young person is Amber, wanting to know, "Can you help me?" Is that too much to ask?


Nicholl McGuire

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