Showing posts with label african american deceivers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label african american deceivers. Show all posts
Sunday
Manipulative Older Black Women Lying, Dominating and Expecting Honor
She yells, curses, bad mouths, pretends to love her man and children, an angry older, black woman with an axe to grind can look beautiful while she destroys anyone who might dare to confront her about her ugly ways. "Don't even try it children and grandchildren," she says in her best, threatening voice with nasty attitude to match.
Don't be deceived into taking the controlling woman's side even when she is wrong. Her children don't come around for good reason. Husbands/boyfriends aren't much on challenging her because of their own insecurities, secrets, offenses, etc. She doesn't mind telling you how old she is, how much knowledge she has obtained, her life experiences, and more while talking over you, under you, and at you. Then she wonders why she isn't liked much by members of her own family, co-workers, brothers and sisters at the church, and elsewhere.
"She sure looks pretty for her age, but she has a nasty mouth. No wonder her kids and grand-kids don't bother with her...I love her, but I can't spend too much time with her...I use to like being around her, but that woman has issues," people who know her well say. You might have said this about someone you know.
When I wrote, "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry," my intent was to bring awareness to issues that some daughters and sons are too fearful of their aging, argumentative mamas and grandmothers that they just can't express. Those sassy mouths get in the way of progress and so one has to speak truth in any way possible and so truth for me came in the form of a book after spending decades listening and observing all women (black, brown, white, yellow, red...) in my own family and elsewhere and examining my own feelings.
Mothers, stepmothers, mother-in-laws, divorced mothers, and any other kind of mother with a history of manipulating people is a force to be reckoned with and until you know the game, she will play you and those connected to you. Before long, you are sitting there thinking, "What just happened, I thought we were cool?" You can't be "cool" with someone who will never see you as nothing more than a pawn in her game. A manipulative woman will lie, dominate, cheat, and more while expecting you to honor her whether she is a believer in God or not. People who help her with the mind games and compliment her on "how good she is" are oftentimes being played too, but because it doesn't feel painful to these flying monkeys and enablers, they think it is okay to approve their aging relative's dysfunction.
When you have arrived to that point in a relationship where you can truly see a deceptive, older black woman (or any person for that matter who loves lying more than speaking real truth) for who they really are, pat yourself on the back and start protecting your heart, mind and back account.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and other books. She provides spiritual wisdom about various subjects on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Don't be deceived into taking the controlling woman's side even when she is wrong. Her children don't come around for good reason. Husbands/boyfriends aren't much on challenging her because of their own insecurities, secrets, offenses, etc. She doesn't mind telling you how old she is, how much knowledge she has obtained, her life experiences, and more while talking over you, under you, and at you. Then she wonders why she isn't liked much by members of her own family, co-workers, brothers and sisters at the church, and elsewhere.
"She sure looks pretty for her age, but she has a nasty mouth. No wonder her kids and grand-kids don't bother with her...I love her, but I can't spend too much time with her...I use to like being around her, but that woman has issues," people who know her well say. You might have said this about someone you know.
When I wrote, "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry," my intent was to bring awareness to issues that some daughters and sons are too fearful of their aging, argumentative mamas and grandmothers that they just can't express. Those sassy mouths get in the way of progress and so one has to speak truth in any way possible and so truth for me came in the form of a book after spending decades listening and observing all women (black, brown, white, yellow, red...) in my own family and elsewhere and examining my own feelings.
Mothers, stepmothers, mother-in-laws, divorced mothers, and any other kind of mother with a history of manipulating people is a force to be reckoned with and until you know the game, she will play you and those connected to you. Before long, you are sitting there thinking, "What just happened, I thought we were cool?" You can't be "cool" with someone who will never see you as nothing more than a pawn in her game. A manipulative woman will lie, dominate, cheat, and more while expecting you to honor her whether she is a believer in God or not. People who help her with the mind games and compliment her on "how good she is" are oftentimes being played too, but because it doesn't feel painful to these flying monkeys and enablers, they think it is okay to approve their aging relative's dysfunction.
When you have arrived to that point in a relationship where you can truly see a deceptive, older black woman (or any person for that matter who loves lying more than speaking real truth) for who they really are, pat yourself on the back and start protecting your heart, mind and back account.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and other books. She provides spiritual wisdom about various subjects on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
5 Signs You Have Shady Relatives
When you talk with deceptive people, some will smile and act respectful while hiding hidden agendas in their minds and hearts. Others will react just like they are, devilish. They have jealous stares, don't smile, and often curse about one thing or another. Those that are shady are cold-hearted and would like nothing more than to take your possessions and hard-earned money while bragging to others how they played you. So how do you know which family members are truly in your corner and which ones are not?
1. You heard about their negative reputation from others. Don't think they will make an exception for you because you grew up together. They typically don't like any one in the family who is successful when they are still struggling. Sure, they might grin in your face, slap you on the back and say "I love you," but these fools are as crooked as their teeth!
2. They have far too many excuses for the stuff they do when confronted. They spend money they aren't supposed to, they go places that they shouldn't, and they place blame on everyone else, but themselves. These lying folks are never to be trusted. Sooner or later they will slip up and you will catch them playing you or someone else.
3. They have many things, but can never tell you where they got them or how much they paid for them. These slick folks usually have long stories they tell while eyes are shifting, hands are moving, and feet are shuffling. Thieves will never be straight up with you!
4. You or others are often a target for borrowing money or contributing to one of their fast money ideas. What usually ends up happening is someone or a group is being tricked by the shady relative and now they need some help to get out of his or her mess.
5. They put spouses, children and other relatives to do their dirty work. From stealing your children's toys to lying on applications, whatever the shady relative needs he or she will enlist the help of "family." Those stupid enough to go along will do just that i.e.) tax season--need I say more. Unfortunately, some will be brainwashed into taking the fall later.
When you know that people in your family, like the ones previously described, avoid falling into their traps! Don't assume because they are your "favorite," a pastor, teacher, attorney, healthcare worker, city council person, or in some other reputable position that they are straight. These predators are just looking for someone naive enough to be their protege, apprentice, worker, or slave to get their shady business done. Don't sleep on wisdom!
Nicholl McGuire shares personal insight and additional wisdom on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
1. You heard about their negative reputation from others. Don't think they will make an exception for you because you grew up together. They typically don't like any one in the family who is successful when they are still struggling. Sure, they might grin in your face, slap you on the back and say "I love you," but these fools are as crooked as their teeth!
2. They have far too many excuses for the stuff they do when confronted. They spend money they aren't supposed to, they go places that they shouldn't, and they place blame on everyone else, but themselves. These lying folks are never to be trusted. Sooner or later they will slip up and you will catch them playing you or someone else.
3. They have many things, but can never tell you where they got them or how much they paid for them. These slick folks usually have long stories they tell while eyes are shifting, hands are moving, and feet are shuffling. Thieves will never be straight up with you!
4. You or others are often a target for borrowing money or contributing to one of their fast money ideas. What usually ends up happening is someone or a group is being tricked by the shady relative and now they need some help to get out of his or her mess.
5. They put spouses, children and other relatives to do their dirty work. From stealing your children's toys to lying on applications, whatever the shady relative needs he or she will enlist the help of "family." Those stupid enough to go along will do just that i.e.) tax season--need I say more. Unfortunately, some will be brainwashed into taking the fall later.
When you know that people in your family, like the ones previously described, avoid falling into their traps! Don't assume because they are your "favorite," a pastor, teacher, attorney, healthcare worker, city council person, or in some other reputable position that they are straight. These predators are just looking for someone naive enough to be their protege, apprentice, worker, or slave to get their shady business done. Don't sleep on wisdom!
Nicholl McGuire shares personal insight and additional wisdom on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
Wednesday
He's Everyone's Friend - A Serpent in the Grass Looking to Get Some A#$
He wears his clothes well, his jewelry sparkles, his shoes are shiny, his teeth are white, and he smells good. Whenever someone sees this man, he raises his hand up to wave, nods his head, and asks, "How's everybody?" He is respected and connected in the public, but behind closed doors he is corrupt usually he has a woman or many women alongside of him that is just as bad as he, if not worse!
"It's all about the money, spend it, save it, earn it...only the strong survive...feel threatened by those around you, figure out a way to rid yourself of the problems...I have lasted this long because I know how to play the game." Mr. Smooth Talker with over 30 years manipulating people and systems to look good on paper says to a group of young black males hanging on his every word. The bright-eyed naive group don't debate or ask too many questions, because they look at the older black man and all they see is bling. "He must have done something right..." some say. But no, the serpent in the suit hasn't done nearly as much right as he has done wrong. But try telling his following that! "I love him...he's been good to me...if it wasn't for him!"
A brotha, or shall I say enemy, like this is strategically placed in the hood in a position of leadership. He is seen in the predominately black establishment usually collecting some money from someone. He is watching his fellow brothas and sistas by non-blacks who expect him to, "Keep your people in line." He knows how to make friends and put them in positions of reasonable power--not too much to overthrow him and not too little that they feel powerless. But later, he will find a way to snatch them out of their positions when they no longer want to play the Serpent's game.
His personal agenda is to pay back The Man depending on how deep his wounds go when it comes to dealing with non-blacks (you find this with the old black man who lived during segregation) or be The Man's friend based on how much negativity he has had to deal with when it comes to his own people. These men and women tend to love all things white, bright and sometimes light, because they have been programmed to do so by ignorant folks who lived before them.
The man with the dapper suit and showy hat will do just about anything to protect his stake in the game. He knows how to smile, charm his master and win over the people, but he also knows how to take from the ones who gave him his spot too--even if he has to throw his own people under the bus! Establishing everything from street cred to kissing babies, the Serpent spends far too much time thinking of ways to keep his reputation intact with certain folks--those who sign his paycheck mainly.
Always looking for the next pawns in his game, the Serpent spots the pretty, gullible, book smart, young lady, the fresh out of college money-loving punk, and the old lady who wouldn't hurt a soul to back him up. He always has some treats to throw their way to keep them close. Yet, he also takes a chance to have those in his inner circle who aren't crazy about him. These are brothas and sistas indebted to him because either they or their relatives asked him for a favor and he hooked them up awhile back, of course charging these poor folks interest. At some point, the grateful and ignorant can't afford to pay the Serpent back, so he offers them some options. From sexual favors to having them take a fall for him, the Serpent will make an undercover, off-the-record deal with you when you don't keep your promise to pay him back. Sometimes, long after you have paid the price, the Serpent never lets you live it down, "Remember, I helped you."
Most people don't believe that the nice black guy or gal, this serpent of a man or woman, is capable of doing wrong to others. Non-blacks, who pay little attention to what conniving blacks do to their own kind, wouldn't believe the messenger; rather they would say, "No, not him. Why would you be critical of her, you jealous? What do you want? What do you stand to gain?" They won't buy into the fact that Mr. or Ms. Friendly, who looks good and dresses well, is corrupt.
Most often the Serpent's fan-base is hand-picked--usually a part of his team somehow someway any way. Going to them, those who work closely with the corrupt individual and asking them for assistance, is never a good idea. They will only run back and warn the Charmer.
One who knows someone like this, will need to know the following: how the Serpent is connected, who are the players in his game, what are his weaknesses/ strengths, and who hates the man or woman with such a passion that they would almost do anything to see the evil man or woman fall. A recording device, witnesses, and anything else you can find on him or her is essential. Without proof, there is nothing to say.
Build up your own team, surround the Serpent, but be prepared to fight for all that belongs to you! Have your people strategically placed around the Serpent and don't be afraid to cut his or her head off--of course not literally!
It is men and women like this who have been a foe to family, church, workplace, club, etc. They are the ones who smile in your face and all the while they want to take your place/talents/seat/opportunity--don't let them!
May God be with you!
Nicholl McGuire
"It's all about the money, spend it, save it, earn it...only the strong survive...feel threatened by those around you, figure out a way to rid yourself of the problems...I have lasted this long because I know how to play the game." Mr. Smooth Talker with over 30 years manipulating people and systems to look good on paper says to a group of young black males hanging on his every word. The bright-eyed naive group don't debate or ask too many questions, because they look at the older black man and all they see is bling. "He must have done something right..." some say. But no, the serpent in the suit hasn't done nearly as much right as he has done wrong. But try telling his following that! "I love him...he's been good to me...if it wasn't for him!"
A brotha, or shall I say enemy, like this is strategically placed in the hood in a position of leadership. He is seen in the predominately black establishment usually collecting some money from someone. He is watching his fellow brothas and sistas by non-blacks who expect him to, "Keep your people in line." He knows how to make friends and put them in positions of reasonable power--not too much to overthrow him and not too little that they feel powerless. But later, he will find a way to snatch them out of their positions when they no longer want to play the Serpent's game.
His personal agenda is to pay back The Man depending on how deep his wounds go when it comes to dealing with non-blacks (you find this with the old black man who lived during segregation) or be The Man's friend based on how much negativity he has had to deal with when it comes to his own people. These men and women tend to love all things white, bright and sometimes light, because they have been programmed to do so by ignorant folks who lived before them.
The man with the dapper suit and showy hat will do just about anything to protect his stake in the game. He knows how to smile, charm his master and win over the people, but he also knows how to take from the ones who gave him his spot too--even if he has to throw his own people under the bus! Establishing everything from street cred to kissing babies, the Serpent spends far too much time thinking of ways to keep his reputation intact with certain folks--those who sign his paycheck mainly.
Always looking for the next pawns in his game, the Serpent spots the pretty, gullible, book smart, young lady, the fresh out of college money-loving punk, and the old lady who wouldn't hurt a soul to back him up. He always has some treats to throw their way to keep them close. Yet, he also takes a chance to have those in his inner circle who aren't crazy about him. These are brothas and sistas indebted to him because either they or their relatives asked him for a favor and he hooked them up awhile back, of course charging these poor folks interest. At some point, the grateful and ignorant can't afford to pay the Serpent back, so he offers them some options. From sexual favors to having them take a fall for him, the Serpent will make an undercover, off-the-record deal with you when you don't keep your promise to pay him back. Sometimes, long after you have paid the price, the Serpent never lets you live it down, "Remember, I helped you."
Most people don't believe that the nice black guy or gal, this serpent of a man or woman, is capable of doing wrong to others. Non-blacks, who pay little attention to what conniving blacks do to their own kind, wouldn't believe the messenger; rather they would say, "No, not him. Why would you be critical of her, you jealous? What do you want? What do you stand to gain?" They won't buy into the fact that Mr. or Ms. Friendly, who looks good and dresses well, is corrupt.
Most often the Serpent's fan-base is hand-picked--usually a part of his team somehow someway any way. Going to them, those who work closely with the corrupt individual and asking them for assistance, is never a good idea. They will only run back and warn the Charmer.
One who knows someone like this, will need to know the following: how the Serpent is connected, who are the players in his game, what are his weaknesses/ strengths, and who hates the man or woman with such a passion that they would almost do anything to see the evil man or woman fall. A recording device, witnesses, and anything else you can find on him or her is essential. Without proof, there is nothing to say.
Build up your own team, surround the Serpent, but be prepared to fight for all that belongs to you! Have your people strategically placed around the Serpent and don't be afraid to cut his or her head off--of course not literally!
It is men and women like this who have been a foe to family, church, workplace, club, etc. They are the ones who smile in your face and all the while they want to take your place/talents/seat/opportunity--don't let them!
May God be with you!
Nicholl McGuire
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