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We Can't Make People Change: Embracing the Reality
In today's world, many of us find ourselves in a constant battle to make others see our point of view and change their ways. Whether it's in our personal relationships or in the larger context of society, we often become frustrated when people refuse to be the person, we want them to be. We start organizations, donate to charities, and fight for change, only to be met with resistance from those who are unwilling to change. But the truth is, we can't make people change. People are going to feel the way they feel, and we must learn to accept that. In this thought-provoking message, we will explore the reasons why people resist change, the impact of their actions, and the importance of self-reflection and personal growth in navigating these challenges.
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The Clutching of the Purse: Understanding Resistance to Change
One powerful example of resistance to change is illustrated in a personal encounter with an African American man and an Asian woman. The man, trying to be helpful, informed the woman that the store they were visiting only accepted cash. In response, the woman clutched her purse, triggering a defensive reaction from the man. This encounter highlights the deep-rooted fears and prejudices that can influence our behavior, even when we are aware of the discrimination faced by others. The woman's actions were not solely about the man's race; they reflected her own experiences and the need to protect herself. This serves as a reminder that people's actions are often driven by their own fears and past traumas, and it is not always about us.
The Limitations of Change
While it is important to advocate for change and fight against injustice, we must also recognize that not everyone is willing or able to change. We cannot force someone to alter their beliefs or behaviors if they are not open to it. We may encounter individuals who are resistant to change due to their own individual experiences, cultural background, or deeply ingrained biases. It is crucial to understand that change is a personal journey, and we cannot impose it on others. Instead, we must focus on what we can control and make changes within ourselves.
Examining Our Own Resistance to Change
In our quest for change, we must also examine our own resistance to change. Are we holding onto past hurts and allowing them to shape our interactions with others? Are we clutching onto our own fears and prejudices, preventing us from truly connecting with those around us? It is essential to acknowledge our own biases and work through deep-rooted issues that may be hindering our ability to embrace change. By letting go of our own emotional baggage, we can create space for growth and understanding.
The Need for Mental Health and Education
Before we can effectively advocate for change and create organizations or initiatives, we must prioritize our own mental health and education. It is not enough to be motivated by negative experiences or a desire for justice. We must seek counseling, education, and personal growth to ensure that we are equipped to navigate the challenges that come with advocating for change. By addressing our own mental well-being, we can approach these issues with logic, reason, and empathy, rather than allowing our emotions to dictate our actions.
Embracing Change and Letting Go
As we navigate the complexities of change, it is important to recognize that not everyone is called to create organizations or lead movements. Some individuals may be better suited to other paths, such as returning to school or pursuing a different career. We must be open to the possibility that our calling may change and be willing to let go of what no longer serves us. Change is inevitable, and it is our responsibility to adapt and grow with it.
The Implications and Impact of Change
Change can be both empowering and challenging. It can lead to personal growth, new opportunities, and a greater understanding of ourselves and others. However, it can also be met with resistance, pushback, and even loss. When we choose to embrace change, we must be prepared for the consequences and potential impact it may have on our lives. It may require us to let go of relationships, jobs, or even our own identities. But in doing so, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and the potential for a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
Conclusion and Future Outlook
In a world that is constantly changing, it is essential to recognize that we cannot force others to change. People will feel the way they feel, and it is not our place to impose our beliefs or expectations on them. Instead, we must focus on our own personal growth, mental well-being, and education. By letting go of our own resistance to change and embracing the reality that not everyone will change, we can create space for understanding, empathy, and connection. As we move forward, let us approach change with an open mind and a willingness to adapt, knowing that true change begins within ourselves.
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That was the Not So Distant Past...Reverse Racism
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The Copycats
You may work, play, or sleep with the copycats. You may have detected that the way they behave with you, as compared to others, is just not genuine. You might have convinced yourself you are welcome in many of their circles, unlike others that look like you, because you are self-controlled, highly educated, articulate, kind, presentable, respectable, and loving, but these qualities many copycats do not have and many more are not really interested in you, but what you can do for them. Their cold-hearted parents and grandparents taught them well.
The copycats use psychology to study you. They learn of your ways and sit back and watch for more things they can use to connect, connive and conquer you. You see, many copycats are like those haters you don't like except these charming, jealous types know that it is easier to charm the bee with honey. So they pretend to like you, be like you. They talk of their past and exaggerate some stories a bit. "You are from that area...so am I. You come from parents of divorce, so do I. You have Indians and blacks in your family? So do I. I love R&B music. Listen to this...I sound just like you."
Do you really have that much in common? Maybe with some, but what is the purpose for the connection? The truth is copycats seek to gain something from you--whatever that might be. From sex to money, the duplicators have married, cheated, lied, stole, abused and used the African American woman and man who is ignorant to their mind manipulations.
As much as some would like to think that higher education has made them equipped enough to protect themselves from deceptive people, the truth is the only thing that education did do was help you play in a competitive game, but it didn't teach you nearly enough to win the game. If this was the case, you wouldn't see so many blacks running into the arms of everyone but their own kind. You would see more wealthy people going back into communities educating, empowering, and doing other things to help the lost, confused, sick, and more. The copycats have made sure that there is just not enough money to go around since they want what the black woman and man has anyway. So they pull out those legal documents and get you to sign here and here and here. Do you bother to read what you are signing?
Copycats can shake, rock, and roll like the black man and woman. They can get an "attitude" like them too. The imitators can also speak the dialect. They can use and abuse folks like a street pimp, player, and hustler. They can pretend to be like Jesus, Allah or someone else from a holy book and then use the text to manipulate you.
The copycats obtain much wealth from the sassy, cursing, fighting, and mentally unstable black woman. They will act just like her in an effort to persuade her to get their needs met. Modern day slave owners' bank accounts grow off the backs of the ball players. Grown men who are still very much child-like. So they don't think beyond the scope of child's play. Many of their fathers never bothered to play much ball with them when they were children, but the copycats are there to help. Sports is not just entertainment, but a fountain of youth for many emotionally wounded men.
The copycats will talk the talk and walk the walk with the black woman and man just to get favor from them and then turn back into their proper speaking, uncaring, prejudicial, and ugly selves when African Americans are no longer useful to their organization, program, club, etc. Then the plan goes into effect to disempower them in any number of ways whether using their own kind to enable them to self-destruct with drugs or alcohol, lay-off, terminate, scandalize, or put them amongst non-blacks who are just as mentally and physically sick, if not worse, like them behind bars or in white rooms.
Beware of the copycats, they are among you in all colors, shapes, and sizes around the world.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and other books.
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Orchestrated Racial Madness - Occult Liberal Groups Keep Rattling the Racist Mindset
Naïve and gullible reporters, liberal groups, optimists, and others tried to convince the masses that racism was no longer an issue now that we had a black president and other blacks in leadership positions across America. However, discerning blacks knew better. They could see the envy, anger, and bitterness still in racist eyes while mouths faked grins and patted backs. Racism hadn't gone anywhere! The comment sections of many blogs, videos, and other places around the web revealed the truth during Obama's early days and still to date.
No matter how many photos of attractive, black men with rich, white women big businesses choose to post, these images make little difference with people set in their ways especially with the Old School. Commercials, movies, and print media showing off wealthy minorities is great public relations, but socially? Hmm. Like a pressure cooker, someone or group was going to blow sooner or later. But before we all get cozy and comfortable in our daily routines after a tragedy, keep in mind, the steam isn't let out yet, it's just beginning. Throw some spiritual discernment into the mix and Satan's blue print is all over these racial incidents. He is letting the world know what he really thinks about praying black folks and those who support them. There is a long history of spiritual warfare between enslaved blacks and their Pharaohs. Chances are a prideful black man running our nation disturbed a bee hive once again, and now his people are going to be made an example of!
Trying to contain steam emanating from racists when one and/or a group is assisting with heating up the pot is going to be a challenge. Parading happy-go-lucky rich blacks and whites hugging, kissing, and doing other things around people with heavy hearts is foolish! It wasn't that long ago when some things were once forbidden so why in the world would anyone think that bombarding people with "unity in the community" kind of media was just going to shoo racial discord away like a fly! Ponder the issues related to social class, inflation, ever-increasing taxes, cost of higher education, unemployment, poor mental and physical healthcare in certain communities, and more and people will lose it!
Racial intolerance is still very much alive and well in America and the offspring has been well-trained to perpetuate hate, slow progress, and do other things to keep people emotionally and physically enslaved. The focus shouldn't be on the skin color or the gun, but on the racial systematic brainwashing that is occurring all over this land to keep elevating The Beast.
There were (and still are) subliminal references to old stereotypes that show up in media while our black president continues to work on assigned tasks by those more powerful than he. Notice, even he can't get hung up on black issues. We saw a barrage of tragic shootings with cops killing young black males and justice not being served in those cases. Did you feel hopeless, disempowered, and a bit depressed after each verdict?
You recall the scandal that arose in Atlanta regarding educational testing. Did you feel disappointed in those educators? Angered that black folks just can't seem to get it right without throwing their own under the bus?
Then most recently a white man shooting and murdering parishioners and their leader. How did you feel about this? Were you angered, ready to do a little shooting yourself? Don't be tempted, there are many empty jail cells waiting to be filled up-- can we say more money, more money for the Bible belt! So while vengeful blacks are in jail, non-blacks will be comforting your partner and raising your children teaching them to avoid procreating with your kind despite being from your blood line! Scientific research has revealed much about DNA privately that hasn't been publicly disclosed. So for many who are advocates of population control, it is a benefit to slow the undesirables' procreation efforts.
As I said before on other blog entries and I am going to say this again, these racial incidents being pushed in media, whether random and/or planned, are brainwashing blacks to do a number of things including self-destruct. An ethnicity of people that is often hated around the world comprised of many with "daddy issues," self-esteem problems, violent mentalities, and other negative character traits. A prideful people who turned their backs on their own God to chase riches and sleep with those who they knowingly are unequally yoked whether black or otherwise. An ignorant ethnicity of folk who manipulates their own at work, takes advantage of their children, and lies to spouses. A people who was once called to be free, but became enslaved again by rich men and women, because the masses didn't speak loud enough and refused to fight. Fear reminded the rebellious people not to snitch and to "mind your own business" while God advised that He had not given a spirit of fear but of power and of a sound mind. How sound is a mind when intoxicated from alcohol, calmed with cigarettes, and addicted to weed and other drugs both legal and illegal?
Grown adults treated like children by master and told in so many words to, "Stay in a child's place." Black, immature Christians attending church services and still obtaining milk through leaders rather than asking a righteous God for mercy, wisdom and His will for one's life. Elders who avoid teaching and prefer to listen to preaching! These people I have described are under a curse.
So the wicked wins and continues to rattle the rogues in their groups with the racist mindsets while shaking the rage within a black group or individual to react rather than act. What is your plan, oh enlightened one, what is your plan?
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
The Former LA Clipper Owner Represents a World that Hasn't Died Yet...
It didn't surprise me to hear Sterling's so-called shocking statements, because I grew up hearing from prejudice blacks and racist non-blacks talk about dealing with each other for business reasons only, but outside of that there was no business. "Don't date them, don't bring them to our family event...don't ask them for nothing outside of business...don't marry them," I heard elders preach and white children of elders share.
White boys and girls were indoctrinated young on how to deal with black folks and so was black folks on what to say and do around white folks. Even if you considered the non-blacks (this includes everyone else too besides being white) a friend, you didn't talk too much about yourself or your family, parents would warn. This is how it was when I grew up in the 70s to present and in many circles it still is. There are some relatives I personally know that won't let you enter their homes with your white girlfriend or boyfriend.
During that short period of time when I thought that people loved one another like Jesus loved the world during those private school years back in the 80s, my naive eyes were opened. I heard my aunt rant about certain white people treating her unfairly during American Legion Auxiliary events. Years later, I saw KKK (also knows as Aryan nation) people in Georgia attempt to give my dad some newsletter as he drove by, but upon closer inspection, they realized he was a fair skin black man and pulled back. I recall those times during the 1990s attending cultural diversity events and writing news articles about stereotypes and racial discrimination in Charleston, Illinois and Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania realizing that white people were great actors when it came to dealing with minorities. I just couldn't understand why some blacks couldn't see through those fake smiles and back-handed jokes and comments. But if these same closet racists drank alcohol, they could be your very best friend, so much in fact they were willing to sleep with you.
Those blacks that are so surprised by the former LA Clipper Owner's (yeah I said it again,) comments are the ones who believed that because they they have married white, obtained wealth from white hands, live in white neighborhoods, work with white people, and have friends who are white assumed that everything was alright. But you got played by a spokesperson who represents the hidden elite. I do believe this man was set up from the start the day he started dating a minority of all things--I say that facetiously. Don't let racist comments create a smokescreen for you, someone or group wanted that sports team for many years now and their plan to get it, worked like a charm! Plant a Judas and you get what you want.
Haven't you noticed a pattern yet with naughty, rebellious whites who refuse the establishment? They get caught during weak moments saying racist things. Take a look at history. When someone or group wants something from the snobs, braggarts, law-breaking, and manipulative individuals in the elitist club or attempt to get them to join, what do they do? They set them up like they do a black rapper on a gun charge!
As for black celebrities going on record cursing, crying, or rebuking about that bad, white man, know this, someone somewhere is going to use at some point their statements, so they ought to watch getting all self-righteous. You never know when one of those non-black wives or girlfriends might use a recording device to catch you!
Black men and women of influence for far too long have talked about what was done during the Civil Rights Movement to promote change, well now here's your chance to make a difference--stop walking around thinking that a black president is all it takes to make things better for you and your family and stop running from black issues while hiding in circles with non-blacks!
As you can clearly see, those who grew up during a time of Jim Crow laws, i.e.) blacks drinking from black water fountains and whites drinking from white water fountains, haven't died yet and neither has their mentalities either! I might also add that to those who think that interracial dating somehow changes a black, white, red, yellow, or brown man or woman's point of view about you, your family, or friends, think again!
Anger the racist enough, and I can almost promise you, true colors will show up and show out! I wonder where is the recording when he damns his dirty, low-down, $%^&* (racist comment to go here) girlfriend for recording him in the first place.
Nicholl McGuire
UPDATE:
The LA NAACP apparently didn't do a thorough background check on their honoree or wait a minute, I guess money overlooks ignorance. Now what was the purpose of the NAACP again?
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