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Black Girl's Rock! Girl's Rule: Watch Out, Something is Brewing...

At first, I was okay with all the positive, mentoring types of groups that are out here for girls, specifically African American girls.  I mean back in the day, I actually took advantage of a few start-ups and nationally known groups myself--some of which weren't catered to black girls. 

I grew up with the "independent theme" being preached in school, out of school and during my college years.  Some of the music that I heard celebrated women while many others didn't.  Back then, I noticed that there was a push to promote more positive images of women because of all the negativity being marketed from many rap musicians (which is still ongoing today which is why more girl groups have arisen.)  However, when you pay attention to the symbolism and imagery surrounding all these so-called positive messages encouraging girls and young women to do better in their lives, you also see the blueprint of certain homosexual and lesbian groups as well.

Everyone has an agenda, a purpose for why they do what they do.  I heard of organizations taking advantage of other groups with the pure intent to recruit members for their groups.  I don't know about you, but there are some groups that I don't want to ever see my children and relatives a part of especially when they show no signs of being confused about their sexual identities.  However, we all know that when someone puts a seed out there to change one's viewpoint, there are many who will buckle under pressure.  They are fearful of being labeled a certain name, ousted from groups that they benefit well from, lose power, fame, etc.

Catch slogans for declaring a young woman's or girl's independence, self-discovery and more, sound good, but you have to look beyond what you see.  Question what the symbolism means when you see something peculiar like downward triangles, odd shapes, hand signs, color combinations, or double-talk (ie. BET's Girl's Rock.)  What exactly does all that mean?  Then follow the money trail.  Let's be honest, there are people who just don't like the nuclear family.  They aren't interested in the husband, wife and children family model.  They rather see anything but!  Understand that some of the rich were once hurting children who have grown up to be cold-hearted (even though they appear to have big-hearts.)  Morals are a thing of the past with them!

Many black people, like many other ethnicities, have historically invested their money in businesses and organizations they were not properly educated about.  They fell victim because someone emotionally charged them while sitting in church.  Someone preached a song and dance about blessings.  Others told a sob story.  Then later, investors would find out that they supported causes that weren't compatible:  with their own spiritual beliefs, sucked them dry financially, or caused unecessary discord in their homes.  Just because something says, "black," "African American," or even "Negro," doesn't mean that the black man or woman owns it, created it, or has any power over it.

When you look at the big picture with all these messages aimed at young black females, you have to see that once again (like in the late eighties and early 90s) she is not being conditioned to be a respectful woman let alone a wife.  Oftentimes, she is accepting the part of sassy (so-called standing up for herself) and sexy while cussing and fussing both boys and men.  Her character is not being equipped to be a stay-at home mother who actually enjoys teaching and caring for her children.  She is being indoctrinated to be a business mogul if you will, a hustler.  Someone who puts money first and family, well that's somewhere on the list.  She is being taught that she is the head of the household just like the man.  It sounds good, having a family, but the truth be told, she isn't really thinking too much about that in her future.  It sounds much nicer, to hear things like:  "having my own business, money, jewelry (bling,) hair done, nails done, nice house and car (even if there is no man or children to put in it.)"

Non-profit groups, local businesses, corporations are loving this new black woman that will be emerging.  She not only can look the part of someone else's vision, but she will also be open to a variety of men to date (translated still having sex out of marriage.) If she gets pregnant, no big deal in her world, have an abortion.  Her way of thinking and sound will be more like that of another culture until there is no more gospel or soul in her voice (ie. Black Girl's Rock -double meaning, rock music which many have sold their souls to the devil to top the music charts.) 

The new age black girl's great grandparents' spiritual teachings are dying with them and she is never getting a chance to fully hear them nor understand them.  Her own mother and father are too young and busy to share family history and teach life lessons--"Let the schools do it, the extracurricular activities do it," they say.  Besides, the parents couldn't care less, because "my old folks didn't have anything anyway!"

The independent young lady may or may not have good experiences of having a father figure in the household.  She may not have seen healthy love and affection between parents.  But who cares?  She may be having thoughts of a boy or girl being her future partner based on her TV watching, internet surfing, video game playing, what her friends have said, and book reading.  If she is gullible, there is some teacher, counselor or group that will bring her thoughts to surface and before long she may be "coming out" even if she isn't all that sure dating is what she really wants.

You have to know, as a parent, there is more than meets the eye with alot of these secular groups.  You have to be viligant in seeking pertinent information on how "they" plan on shaping your daughter or niece's mindset.  I think sometimes as black people, we are so caught up with the color of skin around us and "What we get out of this?" mentalities, that we don't bother to think about the messages that are being preached both verbally and subliminally to our children. 

In closing, for those of you who just love listening to sexy R&B and rap music and sexually provocative music videos and movies around your daughters and/or nieces, you might want to consider turning it all off--you are their example.  Rather, take the time out to find out how these influences (and others) are affecting your children and young relatives in the way they talk and walk.

Nicholl McGuire
Author of Laboring to Love Myself, Amazon.com
http://laboringtoloveanabusivemate.blogspot.com/
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