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Monday

How Are You Living?

I can't see how anyone can say that they are their own person when they keep referring back to what momma and 'em did back in the day while keeping up the same act!?  Somebody tell me where is the individual in individuality?

It seems to me that, as a group, we often look at one another as one in the same.  Ever notice when you walk by someone who is the same color as you, there is a need from you or the person to say something?  There is also some other similarities as blacks we share that non-blacks would question, "Why do you do that?" 

It's unfortunate but some of our people want to keep us in that "back in the day" mindset.  In their worlds, there is no room to be an individual.  They question things like, "Why you wear your hair kinky rather than straight?" when you decide you want to do something different.  They wonder why you choose to listen to various types of music rather than R&B and Hip Hop daily?  They laugh when you start talking about traveling or taking up a hobby.  "You acting white...you one of them n*ggas who like what them white folks like, huh?"  Some of our people have to comment about any and everything that doesn't fit the mold, but why?  Blame it on ignorance, a herdish or sheep mentality, fear, a history of drugs, alcohol, media brainwashing, or mental illness.

I recall the day that I told my relatives I wasn't celebrating any of the holidays anymore.  I gave my explanation which was quite simple, "I rather be at home in peace.  I could use my money for other things.  What's the big deal anyway?  I see ya'll other times--don't need to be in the same room with everybody."  I knew that some of them were more interested in what I could do for them and I was tired of it!  It wasn't like it was back in the day anyway when people were younger, funnier, and had more going on with their lives.  Later in life, I had prayed and fasted about all those so-called family traditions.  God set me free from the traditions and plenty other things too back in 1997. 

Now fast forward and I am re-awakening to all this programming that has been taking place in my life for decades in a variety of areas in my life from TV shows to religion.  I have wondered why a black person on the east coast can identify with the struggle of a black person on the west coast despite growing up in different environments.  I quickly came to to the conclusion that if both are spending hours listening to the same hyped-up musicians, actors and others in the entertainment field while hanging around the same type of people who imitate the artists, then most likely both people from the east and west coast are going to act similar, especially if they had become fans of the entertainers at a very young age.  The entertainment industry keeps black people bound in everything from credit card debt (trying to keep up with the Jones') to out of wedlock children.

What keeps us all from being our own individuals, I believe, first starts with the demands placed on us by our parents to act like them.  "You know momma did that...Well daddy like to listen to that...grandma was always watching..."  Then we are presented with a different model of who we are supposed to be in school and then on to higher education, a trade or some other training that forces us to reinvent our wheels to fit the non-blacks' way of thinking and acting.  In all of this, where is the individuality?

Most of us never fully realize who we are or what our purpose in life is, because we are still feeding ourselves the foolishness from television PROGRAMMING as well as from music and other forms of media.  However, when some of us break the mold, we are shunned by the majority.  We are falsely accused of being any and everything, but black.  We are treated differently, because we are not like the rest.

You can easily confuse the minds of many of our "in the box thinking" people when you turn left while they assumed you were going right.  They thought they understood you black woman, black man; but, you shook their game!  They incorrectly assumed that, "You were one of us."  You see, as long as you do for our people, especially those who are broke, busted and disgusted, then "you are the man...you are down...you are my girl...my boy!"  But when you start dancing to a different drum, they don't like you too much.  Now if you can balance your people and your own individuality, then you are considered "a bad mutha..."  But seriously, how long does that last?  How long can you keep smiling one way with this group and then another way with this one and so on while still keeping yourself happy?

We see alot of the fake persona on the TV screen and when someone wants us to buy something from them.  These people are just going along with the PROGRAM.  But do you or I have to?  Aren't we free to live in this world to be our own individual with our own belief system?  Do we have to do everything that the majority tells us?  Can't we figure out right from wrong without someone telling us?  Do we seriously need only faces that look, act and sound like us to complete us?  Ask yourself, "How am I living?  Then ask yourself this, "Am I really living or am I just doing what years of programming has conditioned me to be?

Nicholl McGuire  
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