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The Nice Card "They" Know How to Use It

Something that the average ignorant black doesn't know how to play very well is The Nice Card.  While lips are poked out, attitudes are flaring, and one is still thinking about what this one and that one did to them, there are those who know how to play the game of nice.  Now if you have to ask what exactly is that?   Then you haven't used your Nice Card in awhile. 

Let me refresh your memory especially if you are all saved and sanctified now, the worldly game is played like this.  When you wanted something from someone you acted politely to get it--even though you know you didn't like that person.  When you wanted your enemy to draw near to you, you acted friendly--even though you knew that this person couldn't be trusted with a 10 foot pole.  When you just wanted to make someone's day in the hopes that good will come your way, you acted positively even though you couldn't care less about a Creator, karma, or anything else spiritual.  Now you remember?  Hey, for some of you reading this you just played the game not that long ago! 

Far too many black folks know how to play The Race Card, but when it comes to The Nice Card, not so much.  Whether spiritual or nonspiritual, rich or poor, smart or dumb, light or dark, some black folks get played by non-blacks because they see only what they want to see because the puppet master tells them what to see.  From a domineering non-black boss to a so-called best friend, manipulators know how to pull The Nice Card when it benefits them, not you.

I was thinking of this when I thought of someone who has been playing a game lately to win the upper hand in her personal endeavors while winning friends in the process.  She plays The Nice Card very well.  The woman whose white and a Christian, recently decided to start acting nicely rather than reacting to others rudely in subtle ways.  Her change of heart (or change of strategy) might have appeared genuine had she not revealed her hole card prior to playing The Nice Game, but she realized that she wasn't making any friends.  It is my assumption that she thinks that certain black folks don't know any better, so she continues on with her act while a few blacks, closest to her, don't realize what she is doing.  The game of nice, in her case, will soon take on a form of control if the unsuspecting aren't awaken.  All the nice deeds, acts, and other niceties will begin to reveal one's true intent. 

Past issues become a thing of the past for some ignorant blacks and non-blacks when one uses his or her Nice Card.  It won't be until the individual is tested in a high stressful situation that one's true colors will show up.  I think of a woman who once told me, "You will know what a white person truly feels about you when you make them angry enough--out will come the N word!"  So true, I have already experienced that one.  But if you haven't, stay tuned, it might come in a variety of words that sound real close to the "N" one.  If you're own people can call you one, you can only imagine what a racist will call you, but moving on with this subject of acting nice.

The Nice Card is often used by those who are in powerful positions, often in media, and have great wealth.  They know how to smile, invite others to events, meet and greet all sorts of people warmly, and overall appear to be nice.  We notice these people and say things like, "She is so nice...He is rather nice...I like them, they are nice to be around."   Most people are deceived by those who are good at covering up who they really are, but there is always one who pays more attention than the rest in the group and sees the actor or actress for who he or she really is.  We frown on the town-cryer and falsely accuse that person of being "a hater...jealous...why you picking on her, she is so nice!"
We will even go so far as to defend someone because we were "bought" by them, sexed by them, or they helped us with So and So.  But as I write, I think of the many wolves in sheep's clothing that deceived me just because I thought they were "nice."  People tried to tell me different and warned me about their dark side, but I would just keep right on dealing with them until I got burned.  The manipulator got what he or she wanted, information, money, service, etc. while I got nothing in return except debt, a headache, heartache or all three.

You may have encountered some people who try too hard to be nice.  You might have saw their phony expressions and over-the-top behavior from afar and wondered what is really going on with him or her.  If these people make you feel uncomfortable, despite they're acting nice, chances are they are indeed playing The Nice Card.  For some non-blacks and black folks alike, life is nothing more than a game, and love certainly has nothing to do with it.

Nicholl McGuire 

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