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You Got Played by The Cheap, Selfish Hustler

From relationships to the church board room, the cheap, selfish hustler type is always looking for a way to financially increase, delegate responsibilities, and do whatever else to "save me some money and time." 

So who is this cheap, selfish hustler and why bother talking about him or her?  This frugal man or woman who cares much about meeting his or her needs on the backs of others is someone worth mentioning, because he or she is at work right now playing your daughter, cousin, or someone else you care about.  Sometimes we forget what we have been through or done back in the day that we forget about the wolves who are on the prowl.  So keep reading.

This cheap, selfish hustler was born out of lack.  Basic needs unmet, mental handicaps, physical disabilities, and other issues and no one seems to care.   Someone could be raising a son or daughter right now to be the next hustler.  Momma and daddy usually couldn't buy what he or she wanted when this person needed it, so he or she suffered.  The future hustler's requests for basic things were often rejected--we aren't talking about video games, TVS and mp4 players either! 

Parents were often controlling and the child was most likely often in competition with siblings because "Momma favored So and So."  This hurt child, later turned hustler, learned quickly how to get over on the gullible, take from the trusting, and hurt those who hurt him or her in subtle ways whether verbally or physically.  Often emotionally wounded, impovershied children with displaced anger grow up to be conninving, selfish, and frugal.  If you don't believe this, just look at some of the troubled children around you and ask them, "What is it that momma and daddy isn't doing for you?  How do they treat your siblings as compared to you?  What is it that hurts you deep inside?" 

There is a nagging feeling in the pit of a hustler's stomach or a pain in his or her head when he or she has to fork over time or money to help someone else other than self, because it just took too long to get what little they got--they had to jump through hoops to finally get it and now one is asking them to share?  You are asking too much.

Oh yes, the cheap, selfish hustler can be male or female, rich or poor, black or white, young or old, saintly or devilish.  He or she has more plans up his or her sleeves to get over while looking good in the eyes of others.  "How can I get a deal on that...I'm not paying that price.  Maybe I can get it for free," he or she thinks.  When no one is around to spy on this manipulator, he or she sits back and contemplates on his or her next move to "get out, get over, or get on" while looking honest and carrying no blame for the conflict.  The hustler doesn't want to have to do too much of anything but joke a little, tell a good story, and possibly offer something that isn't worth much. 

The professional hustler is looking for ways to impress the boss, the wife, the children, the mistress--whoever.  He knows how to use words to get what he wants, then eventually when he has used other things, most people around him or her are trapped in his web like a fly trying to get away from a spider.  Before they know it, they are ate up from all the game playing--trying to stay one step ahead--that is if they ever realize the hustler has been playing them in the first place.

The street hustler is looking for ways to get you to hand over whatever material possession you have and when you do, it's on to the next one.  "But what about what he said and what he is going to do for me?"  the gullible are left standing there with an empty bank account and gas tank, a fatherless child, a broken heart, a bitter spirit, and so forth.  Those who think they know better ignore the warnings from those who can hear a hustler a mile away.   

Most hustlers just want in on whatever you are bringing.  So what is it that you are giving away these days for a little bit of nothing?  Whether you have plans to marry, date, attend a party, get a job, meet with relatives and friends, join a civic group, share a service/product, etc. someone is going to ask, "Is it free?  What do I have to do to get it?  What is she giving me?  Who does he know?  What can I get?"  Know what you are bringing to the table, before the hustler tells you what to bring when you least expect it.  So many people "get caught off guard" in relationships, business partnerships, fraternal groups, civic associations even telemarketers by hustlers!  They get married when they aren't ready.  They go places they don't like.  They see people they would rather not.  They build businesses with others they despise.  They spend money they can't afford.  Why?  Because they got played--systematically played for days, months, or even years!  Now these "I should know better" type, are scrambling to pick up what is left of a broken heart, broken family, broken bank account, etc.

Cheap hustlers don't like to pay for anything, but they want everything while claiming to know everyone!  They hold out on paying for things and paying back people, because they hope you will say, "That's alright...don't worry about paying me.  It's all good, you family!  You good people--one of them Jesus type, right?  So that's what's you supposed to do, hook a brotha up!"  Meanwhile, hustlers will pay Uncle Charlie for whatever he is selling and give respect to Aunt Anne because "she knows some important people and well you know I have to pay her because you never know, I might need her one day."  The hustler reasons in his or her mind why he has to hustle you and why he can't get over on others.  Meanwhile, the naive go along just to get along. 

If you want one up on the hustler, let him know from the door, "How much are you paying me...What are you giving me?  Let me see the contract and I'll go over it with my attorney.  Where is your business license?  I think I will wait on the booty call. Why is there a rush to get married?"  When you start asking questions and telling him or her how your game is played, watch his or her sorry looking eyes.  Cheap hustlers don't usually plan to give out much of anything and don't often plan on you being one of the smart ones especially if you tend to act stupidly in various areas of your life.  You can count on a hustler giving you one or all of the following: a smile, a moment in bed, a promise, or a "thank you so much, you are a wonderful person..."  How much are you worth?

Nicholl McGuire   

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