Wednesday
Tuesday
No Love for His People, Protective of the Black Man's Love Stick
Over the years, I have been told by non-black women about how they just love a black man's love stick to put it nicely. They also claimed to have no problem with blacks and even went so far as to boast the ever-popular comment of having "a black friend" or two including myself. Yet, actions speak louder than words and as I sat an observed these all-too-excited non-blacks, who landed themselves black men or was chosen by more than a few, I couldn't help but feel some degree of discomfort being in these lust-filled women's presence.
I knew that their so-called love for black people in general was not genuine. There were things said, mannerisms displayed, and an over protectiveness of their black men, as if they were going to get away when around their own ethnicity or others. They could care less about their black men's family unless their was some benefit to them like getting close to a few to get some information or recruit a snitch or two to watch out for their player boyfriends and husbands. However, overall they were more concerned about taking their black men away from all things black i.e.) black neighborhood, churches, relatives, friends, music, food--you name it. The true essence of being black doesn't mesh too well in other cultures, so one must assimilate new information and adopt a brand new lifestyle and way of talking in order to survive. If the black man sees his life will be bettered by someone, who is in love with his stick, then he won't hesitate to take advantage. He reasons, love for or from the woman will follow one day. Yet that doesn't happen for many adventure seeking non-blacks especially when things stop working as good as they once did.
Maybe the overprotective, jealous and insecure attitudes of non-black women were valid since a few did have players for mates, but still I didn't notice or experience a real love for blacks, I just felt a tolerance. I was the former partner, cousin, friend, co-worker who knew or knew of the black guys who were magnets of white women; therefore, I was considered "okay, safe, a trustworthy source."
In my opinion, there is something wrong with any woman who is in love with a man's private part. When she worships something that has a purpose that simply pleasures, releases waste and makes babies, you have to wonder what, if any, God or gods does she serve. What is it about esteeming a man's Johnson? We see symbols all over this world recognizing pagan sexual god worship along with a male body organ exaggerated to demonstrate power. For some women, they are captivated, strangely obsessed, and crazy for erect flesh beyond what its function is. They will fight, manipulate, lie, argue, and even use religion to justify their many sins committed as a result of chasing after and attempting to maintain a black man's love stick.
I recall boys and men brag about their private parts while thinking there was nothing wrong with what they were doing. Instructed by the elders that came before them on using what they got to get what they want, some learned to master women and girls with what they knew. Some recognized the significance of what good love-making could do for them and how many girls and women will latch on like dogs in heat. Unfortunately, far too many fathers never broke their so-called code of honor with the guys. They failed to educate their naïve daughters on the many manipulations a handsome black man with a big Johnson will use on them. Therefore, these gullible young as well as old black and non-black women become nothing more than yet another notch on a man's belt--a belt they typically bought.
The boldness of this piece isn't meant to offend, but to awaken those who may be encouraging such behavior--a glorification of a love stick that was never meant to be idolized, argued about, protected like gold, or treated as if there is something so special and holy about it. It was just another creation by a God who made the sun, moon, animals, nature, and more. But what is scary is that he is the same God that has a long history of destroying idols. It isn't any wonder that these lust-filled romances don't last, and those that do gain some years are typically unhappy.
Nicholl McGuire
I knew that their so-called love for black people in general was not genuine. There were things said, mannerisms displayed, and an over protectiveness of their black men, as if they were going to get away when around their own ethnicity or others. They could care less about their black men's family unless their was some benefit to them like getting close to a few to get some information or recruit a snitch or two to watch out for their player boyfriends and husbands. However, overall they were more concerned about taking their black men away from all things black i.e.) black neighborhood, churches, relatives, friends, music, food--you name it. The true essence of being black doesn't mesh too well in other cultures, so one must assimilate new information and adopt a brand new lifestyle and way of talking in order to survive. If the black man sees his life will be bettered by someone, who is in love with his stick, then he won't hesitate to take advantage. He reasons, love for or from the woman will follow one day. Yet that doesn't happen for many adventure seeking non-blacks especially when things stop working as good as they once did.
Maybe the overprotective, jealous and insecure attitudes of non-black women were valid since a few did have players for mates, but still I didn't notice or experience a real love for blacks, I just felt a tolerance. I was the former partner, cousin, friend, co-worker who knew or knew of the black guys who were magnets of white women; therefore, I was considered "okay, safe, a trustworthy source."
In my opinion, there is something wrong with any woman who is in love with a man's private part. When she worships something that has a purpose that simply pleasures, releases waste and makes babies, you have to wonder what, if any, God or gods does she serve. What is it about esteeming a man's Johnson? We see symbols all over this world recognizing pagan sexual god worship along with a male body organ exaggerated to demonstrate power. For some women, they are captivated, strangely obsessed, and crazy for erect flesh beyond what its function is. They will fight, manipulate, lie, argue, and even use religion to justify their many sins committed as a result of chasing after and attempting to maintain a black man's love stick.
I recall boys and men brag about their private parts while thinking there was nothing wrong with what they were doing. Instructed by the elders that came before them on using what they got to get what they want, some learned to master women and girls with what they knew. Some recognized the significance of what good love-making could do for them and how many girls and women will latch on like dogs in heat. Unfortunately, far too many fathers never broke their so-called code of honor with the guys. They failed to educate their naïve daughters on the many manipulations a handsome black man with a big Johnson will use on them. Therefore, these gullible young as well as old black and non-black women become nothing more than yet another notch on a man's belt--a belt they typically bought.
The boldness of this piece isn't meant to offend, but to awaken those who may be encouraging such behavior--a glorification of a love stick that was never meant to be idolized, argued about, protected like gold, or treated as if there is something so special and holy about it. It was just another creation by a God who made the sun, moon, animals, nature, and more. But what is scary is that he is the same God that has a long history of destroying idols. It isn't any wonder that these lust-filled romances don't last, and those that do gain some years are typically unhappy.
Nicholl McGuire
Sunday
Hen-Pecked, Controlled - The Weak-Minded Man
Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate: Hen-Pecked, Controlled - The Weak-Minded Man: "She's controlling...she doesn't want you to do anything for you...she is so jealous...why do you let her treat you like that?...
Thursday
Tradition - The Joy, Peace and Craziness on a Holiday with Black Folk
For years, I avoided any family gatherings no matter what they were celebrating, I just didn't want to have to contend with certain folks who I knew were not all-together in their minds. It can be draining dealing with the wild folks that can't and won't shut up. Others who don't know how to keep their hands to themselves. As well as those difficult relatives who have more issues than the law allow!
When you have your own personal dramas sometimes it is just best to stay away--and I'm not mad at those who do! I did reach out in recent years to relatives and friends and made my way around-- seeing people I hadn't seen in a long time. I showed some love and offered service and gifts when I could. I was also grateful to see how the children had grown as well.
With soulful music playing in the background, joyful laughing heard from different rooms, and bright, sunny days at some of these events, what was there to complain about? I personally avoided any conversations about religion, politics, money, relationship, and somebody's children. I kept things light. It is such a nice feeling to come away from an event without having to repent over something you said because you allowed someone to take you there.
To my readers, who might have had to check someone this holiday season and feel a rise on the inside every time you think about certain folk, take a slow breath. Focus on the things that warmed your heart that day. Reflect on those good times and just remember, there is always that possibility that someone at the event you attended recently just might not make it next year or any year after that.
God bless y'all!
Nicholl
When you have your own personal dramas sometimes it is just best to stay away--and I'm not mad at those who do! I did reach out in recent years to relatives and friends and made my way around-- seeing people I hadn't seen in a long time. I showed some love and offered service and gifts when I could. I was also grateful to see how the children had grown as well.
With soulful music playing in the background, joyful laughing heard from different rooms, and bright, sunny days at some of these events, what was there to complain about? I personally avoided any conversations about religion, politics, money, relationship, and somebody's children. I kept things light. It is such a nice feeling to come away from an event without having to repent over something you said because you allowed someone to take you there.
To my readers, who might have had to check someone this holiday season and feel a rise on the inside every time you think about certain folk, take a slow breath. Focus on the things that warmed your heart that day. Reflect on those good times and just remember, there is always that possibility that someone at the event you attended recently just might not make it next year or any year after that.
God bless y'all!
Nicholl
Wednesday
Start Thinking about Making Passive Income for the New Year
You never know what a day might bring, this is why one must be prepared. With financial times changing like the wind, you will want to consider having extra money somewhere just in case you might need it.
Most people go online and do the typical things: check email, visit a social networking page, view an online banking account, watch some videos, and research a few things. However, one can best use his or her time, especially when bored, to make money. There are so many ways to do it from marketing your own services via ads to participating in surveys and online games. See the following link for many legitimate sites that have cut their overhead costs and choose to do business online. These companies are willing to pay you to work from home. Click here for a recent list: Supplemental Income
Most people go online and do the typical things: check email, visit a social networking page, view an online banking account, watch some videos, and research a few things. However, one can best use his or her time, especially when bored, to make money. There are so many ways to do it from marketing your own services via ads to participating in surveys and online games. See the following link for many legitimate sites that have cut their overhead costs and choose to do business online. These companies are willing to pay you to work from home. Click here for a recent list: Supplemental Income
Thursday
Wednesday
Tuesday
Intelligence More Precious than Silver and Gold
After spending years observing our people and hearing racist whites and others speak negatively about some, I recognize the ignorance and lack of intelligence from those individuals. However, I also see, even nowadays, the stereotypical behaviors playing themselves out with not just blacks, but other ethnicities too on various reality shows.
From nasty attitudes to explosive tempers, the mean-spirited men and women, who don't want to be depicted as unintelligent, ugly, or crazy, are being just that! The ring leaders and producers of these shows do not mind exploiting ignorant people, who typically have low-self-esteem, personality disorders, and more. Racists are sitting on couches laughing at how blacks act on television and elsewhere saying, "I told you so! See why I don't want my daughter or son dating those people!"
When you think back to days when you were in school, you may have recalled some individuals who were known for being trouble-makers and you may have noticed how they looked. Some may have been pretty, handsome, and others ugly or scary looking. You might have noticed a pattern with these students. The ones that came from decent backgrounds and were considered smart tended to do well in school while others who didn't look or act the part missed out on much. Instead of putting one's head in his or her studies, those who were considered disadvantaged or at risk, were too busy commenting about the smarter students, "They think they better than us...they are treated better...why they get this and that and we don't?"
As a child, I questioned why darker skin individuals tended to act strangely at times with me. I was one of those students who had a strict upbringing so there was no talking smart to teachers, cursing with friends, smoking and drinking, and if you acted like you wanted to be with a boy, there was going to be hell to pay. I wondered why I had a disconnect with some of our people especially darker skin black males. The conversation back then was non-existent unless of course one wanted to "talk" to me. What came out of these boys mouths was laughable and the truth was they weren't doing much in school other than playing sports or playing girls.
I was aware of what parents and grandparents had told some of us kids about light skin and white individuals and also heard what they said about dark skin people. What was wrong with these adults? Why were they so focused on what someone looked like? Why did they think that people who were lighter acted better? Much of this foolishness came from past programming, but some things were evident. Light, dark and white people did behave in ways that were negative at times because adults encouraged nasty behavior. If a mother made a big deal about skin tone, hair and the appearance of a child's body, then of course the child was going to behave as if he or she was better or not so much depending on the kind of programming he or she received. Then there were those who acted as if they were smarter, but the truth was that many whites and lighter skin blacks did behave differently and were doing well in school. However, I noticed that many of the mixed children were in Advanced Placement classes and were a part of extracurricular activities while those who were considered "more black" were struggling in some studies.
Now there has been past research done dealing with mental aptitudes and racists love promoting the scores between whites, blacks and mixed people, see here. Unfortunately, those that I attended school with many were more focused on music, television, sports, and could care less about anything outside of those categories. These interests were passed down from previous generations who didn't think that knowing much outside of what a teacher put in front of a child was necessary.
I am disappointed when I look at our modern day society and I see the same nonchalant attitude regarding education and wisdom being encouraged. Why is there such a disinterest in advancing one's intelligence starting with self, next one's own children and then community? It is pitiful! Wise words invite eye-rolls, deep sighs, followed by a negative attitude that refuses to listen to anything thought-provoking especially with most blacks who prefer to be entertained by a TV screen then to read a book. Many of our people go about their business, having very little to say about things of substance. If it isn't about weather, money, sex, cars, clothing, and other related things, the eyes don't widen, the eye-brows don't perk up, and the ears are barely listening.
Fathers and mothers often too busy to teach children critical thinking skills; find it more important for a child to play and stay out of the parent's way. Isn't this what many of our parents, grandparents and great grandparents did with us? Didn't they want us to be seen and not heard? Didn't they expect us to go off somewhere and stay out of their hair? So many of us repeat the past and then become angry when confronted about it. Some will make excuses and claim they are not like their fathers and mothers. Others will say something like, "I expect my children to do great things in the future," but how much time and energy are some black parents putting in to build up their intelligence? Are you giving them opportunities to make decisions on their own? Are they able to get dressed, organize their things, and tend to tasks without your doing everything for them or berating them for not getting things done? Are black parents taking advantage of school breaks and introducing children to useful material that will keep their minds become sharp and competitive?
I admit I haven't figured it all out when it comes to increasing the mental aptitude of our people, but what I can say is that running to non-blacks to solve one's issues with parenting, relationships, business, and spirituality might be helpful to some. But those that have enough sense to make sense of what is happening with the spiritual black man and woman's relationship, should be doing what they can to preserve it. I'm not referring to just any black person, but those who have been set apart to do the will of their Creator. Those that know his voice, know what they are supposed to do. They must stop down-playing wisdom or making excuses by saying they are too busy to learn some things to better their lives and those coming after them. Notice black folks know how to make time to watch TV.
Intelligence isn't like the latest fashions that come and go, it is and will always be in style!
Nicholl McGuire
Check out more on Race and Intelligence here.
From nasty attitudes to explosive tempers, the mean-spirited men and women, who don't want to be depicted as unintelligent, ugly, or crazy, are being just that! The ring leaders and producers of these shows do not mind exploiting ignorant people, who typically have low-self-esteem, personality disorders, and more. Racists are sitting on couches laughing at how blacks act on television and elsewhere saying, "I told you so! See why I don't want my daughter or son dating those people!"
When you think back to days when you were in school, you may have recalled some individuals who were known for being trouble-makers and you may have noticed how they looked. Some may have been pretty, handsome, and others ugly or scary looking. You might have noticed a pattern with these students. The ones that came from decent backgrounds and were considered smart tended to do well in school while others who didn't look or act the part missed out on much. Instead of putting one's head in his or her studies, those who were considered disadvantaged or at risk, were too busy commenting about the smarter students, "They think they better than us...they are treated better...why they get this and that and we don't?"
As a child, I questioned why darker skin individuals tended to act strangely at times with me. I was one of those students who had a strict upbringing so there was no talking smart to teachers, cursing with friends, smoking and drinking, and if you acted like you wanted to be with a boy, there was going to be hell to pay. I wondered why I had a disconnect with some of our people especially darker skin black males. The conversation back then was non-existent unless of course one wanted to "talk" to me. What came out of these boys mouths was laughable and the truth was they weren't doing much in school other than playing sports or playing girls.
I was aware of what parents and grandparents had told some of us kids about light skin and white individuals and also heard what they said about dark skin people. What was wrong with these adults? Why were they so focused on what someone looked like? Why did they think that people who were lighter acted better? Much of this foolishness came from past programming, but some things were evident. Light, dark and white people did behave in ways that were negative at times because adults encouraged nasty behavior. If a mother made a big deal about skin tone, hair and the appearance of a child's body, then of course the child was going to behave as if he or she was better or not so much depending on the kind of programming he or she received. Then there were those who acted as if they were smarter, but the truth was that many whites and lighter skin blacks did behave differently and were doing well in school. However, I noticed that many of the mixed children were in Advanced Placement classes and were a part of extracurricular activities while those who were considered "more black" were struggling in some studies.
Now there has been past research done dealing with mental aptitudes and racists love promoting the scores between whites, blacks and mixed people, see here. Unfortunately, those that I attended school with many were more focused on music, television, sports, and could care less about anything outside of those categories. These interests were passed down from previous generations who didn't think that knowing much outside of what a teacher put in front of a child was necessary.
I am disappointed when I look at our modern day society and I see the same nonchalant attitude regarding education and wisdom being encouraged. Why is there such a disinterest in advancing one's intelligence starting with self, next one's own children and then community? It is pitiful! Wise words invite eye-rolls, deep sighs, followed by a negative attitude that refuses to listen to anything thought-provoking especially with most blacks who prefer to be entertained by a TV screen then to read a book. Many of our people go about their business, having very little to say about things of substance. If it isn't about weather, money, sex, cars, clothing, and other related things, the eyes don't widen, the eye-brows don't perk up, and the ears are barely listening.
Fathers and mothers often too busy to teach children critical thinking skills; find it more important for a child to play and stay out of the parent's way. Isn't this what many of our parents, grandparents and great grandparents did with us? Didn't they want us to be seen and not heard? Didn't they expect us to go off somewhere and stay out of their hair? So many of us repeat the past and then become angry when confronted about it. Some will make excuses and claim they are not like their fathers and mothers. Others will say something like, "I expect my children to do great things in the future," but how much time and energy are some black parents putting in to build up their intelligence? Are you giving them opportunities to make decisions on their own? Are they able to get dressed, organize their things, and tend to tasks without your doing everything for them or berating them for not getting things done? Are black parents taking advantage of school breaks and introducing children to useful material that will keep their minds become sharp and competitive?
I admit I haven't figured it all out when it comes to increasing the mental aptitude of our people, but what I can say is that running to non-blacks to solve one's issues with parenting, relationships, business, and spirituality might be helpful to some. But those that have enough sense to make sense of what is happening with the spiritual black man and woman's relationship, should be doing what they can to preserve it. I'm not referring to just any black person, but those who have been set apart to do the will of their Creator. Those that know his voice, know what they are supposed to do. They must stop down-playing wisdom or making excuses by saying they are too busy to learn some things to better their lives and those coming after them. Notice black folks know how to make time to watch TV.
Intelligence isn't like the latest fashions that come and go, it is and will always be in style!
Nicholl McGuire
Check out more on Race and Intelligence here.
Monday
African American Escapism
Escapism is a mental diversion by means of entertainment or recreation, as an "escape" from the perceived unpleasant or banal aspects of daily life. - Wikipedia
Witnessing for years a black man recreate his father and mother's hurtful past, I couldn't help but wonder had he recognized what he was doing. Did he know that trying to play toxic roles that they created for themselves was not therapeutic? They were divorced. These people had used non-blacks to help them escape their past pain. They had took on yet another identity, not their own, in an effort to hide past disappointments. But running from one's self, background, environment, and more did little to bring peace to the former couple who went on to marry non-blacks. The young man who saw the foolishness of parents had taken his own identity and wrapped it up in what he thought was best for him with his mother's stamp of approval. He too would attempt to run from his black wounded self.
Some African Americans have done something like what has been described when it comes to personal and professional relationships. If the person, place or thing is unpleasant and one is tired of having to battle with he, she or it, then the question arises, "What should I do?" Typically, the one accusing others of running when things get heated in relationships, at work, and elsewhere, ends up being the runner. After one has found safety in a wicked non-black group, large costly house, expensive automobile, immoral sex, or something else that causes additional headaches, he or she no longer deals with deep-rooted issues. The focus is now on the person, place or thing they are using to escape one's unpleasant past life. Although the side effects of previous pain are apparent, the stubborn and self-righteous man, woman, or child is not going to address them. "Leave me be! I just want to laugh, cry, have fun looking at someone or something else...don't make me look at me! Okay?" The Runner cries.
For so long, many African Americans have run from those black conscious thinkers that remind them of their differences from others, and why they must separate themselves from worldly thinkers, idol worshipers, immoral activities, and the like. But the "I know everything" types will continue to wallow in their mess justifying their ugly ways while attempting to recruit others to take a swim in their filth.
Looking to despicable music, video games, movies, and senseless printed media to escape responsibilities, the African American nowadays does little for the body, mind or soul especially after receiving one's most coveted degree. Tossing back a few too many drinks and smoking up this thing and that one only causes one's mind to contort into nothing more than a zombie over time. A walking dead man or woman can't remember much, is unable to articulate well, will not stay faithful in a relationship, is not a good parent, has trouble focusing on tasks, and is unable to accomplish anything worthwhile from all his or her partying over the years. There comes a point when one just can't escape from truth anymore! He or she has to look at the person looking back at him or her in the mirror. It is then that self-reflection will make one view his or her life decisions.
Society's evil delights entrap, debilitate, and cause chaos in the family home and in other places. Sure, they look good, feel nice, and do other things that attract the weak-minded, but you know it is all smoke and mirrors when you can't do much else with these evil delights except ask for more. Those who have spent anytime feeling like a prisoner in a relationship or have been to prison, know what it feels like to have one's freedom taken away. Entertainment and guilty pleasures restricts minds--imprisons them so that they can't think of anything more than to get one's fleshly needs met, sometimes by any means necessary. Take a look at example after example of celebrities who thought that by using their money to buy things in an effort to escape their pain they would be happy only to find their darkest secrets exposed for all the world to see.
Deep thinking is absent when one is high off a substance, a new purchase, another relocation, a new love, and other things. Those that "been there, done that" know that many African Americans are weak to substance abuse, gambling and shopping. Unfortunately, these same people will take those weaknesses and capitalize off of them. They could care less about one's problems. For some haters, they hope the African American family self-destructs. They have no problem leading the sheep to slaughter to fatten their wallets. If one's mind is unconscious he or she will keep right on doing devilish things that will eventually cost lives.
This is just something to think about for those who love sipping, puffing, and watching all things ugly on TV and the Internet--life is too short, welcome yourself back to reality.
Nicholl McGuire shares insightful audio/video here.
Friday
What More Do You Need Besides Money?
If you ask most people around you what they need, they would say, "More money." But can I tell you from personal experience, when the money comes, it goes and you only end up wishing for more.
Some years back an opportunity came to my household that our family was ecstatic about. It required relocating and settling in an area that was laid back, rarely any traffic, no major stores within walking distance, and no buses or taxi cabs nearby. Police and fire vehicles were hardly ever seen or heard. It was a nice suburban environment with rural surroundings nearby (i.e.) fields, cattle and a lake. The draw for us city folks, from Los Angeles County, going there, money!
Now we were not exactly comfortable with such simple living in a small town in Georgia, and we also weren't use to having to rely on a vehicle to go to most places either. There was an unspoken objection about being there, but no one in the family said anything initially even though mannerisms said otherwise. As challenges increased what appeared to be a good opportunity was turning into a wilderness experience. We dealt with insects of all shapes and sizes that liked to come and visit us every time a door or window was opened. We were often exhausted from the heat. We noticed people ate and drank too much and we became fearful that their laziness was rubbing off on us. Irritability, boredom, and other issues increased, but we rejected the red alert signs that told us, "This atmosphere really isn't for you, go back to what you are used to." Rather, we focused on the money, the spacious house, and a huge backyard for the kids--simple living...that was our motivation for coping.
Less than three years later, the opportunity turned sour and we headed back to where we started out, back to our beloved busy town in So-Cal with many apartment buildings, small homes and laughable so-called backyards. It was home, we had no business leaving in the first place. Looking back, I realized that our wilderness experience was not one we really needed, but it did teach us a simple lesson from simple living, "Be appreciative of what you already got." Having more money, a house and new gadgets didn't make us feel any better in the long term. We didn't treat one another any better, we didn't act grateful for anything before we were buying something else, and we found ourselves shopping more because we could. What little money we did manage to save was ate up by moving expenses.
There sincerely is more to life then getting more money for more things. What I have found is it really isn't more money that one needs, but more education on how to manage what you already have. Learning doesn't stop after you graduate from school. I also find that the more we buy, the more we try to ignore what is really wrong within. A mother is unhappy with having to spend much time with children or too little time. A husband is disappointed in his partner and regrets past decisions he has made. Relatives can be emotionally and physically draining. Therefore, one reasons buying stuff will shut up everyone and make them happy. Putting money in someone's hand will do nothing more than place you on their list of potential givers. When that person needs something, he or she knows you got money and will expect you to come to his or her aid.
What more do we need besides money? The answer is life-changing gifts that have no dollar sign. Things like: more love, peace, free time to think deeply, and patience for starters. Our focus should not be inundated with obtaining material things when a relationship is dying, there is war at home or elsewhere, children are doing poorly, and one's mind is often confused or emotionally upset. Money will pay for things, but it can't heal a broken spirit.
Nicholl McGuire, see more of the writer's work on video here.
Some years back an opportunity came to my household that our family was ecstatic about. It required relocating and settling in an area that was laid back, rarely any traffic, no major stores within walking distance, and no buses or taxi cabs nearby. Police and fire vehicles were hardly ever seen or heard. It was a nice suburban environment with rural surroundings nearby (i.e.) fields, cattle and a lake. The draw for us city folks, from Los Angeles County, going there, money!
Now we were not exactly comfortable with such simple living in a small town in Georgia, and we also weren't use to having to rely on a vehicle to go to most places either. There was an unspoken objection about being there, but no one in the family said anything initially even though mannerisms said otherwise. As challenges increased what appeared to be a good opportunity was turning into a wilderness experience. We dealt with insects of all shapes and sizes that liked to come and visit us every time a door or window was opened. We were often exhausted from the heat. We noticed people ate and drank too much and we became fearful that their laziness was rubbing off on us. Irritability, boredom, and other issues increased, but we rejected the red alert signs that told us, "This atmosphere really isn't for you, go back to what you are used to." Rather, we focused on the money, the spacious house, and a huge backyard for the kids--simple living...that was our motivation for coping.
Less than three years later, the opportunity turned sour and we headed back to where we started out, back to our beloved busy town in So-Cal with many apartment buildings, small homes and laughable so-called backyards. It was home, we had no business leaving in the first place. Looking back, I realized that our wilderness experience was not one we really needed, but it did teach us a simple lesson from simple living, "Be appreciative of what you already got." Having more money, a house and new gadgets didn't make us feel any better in the long term. We didn't treat one another any better, we didn't act grateful for anything before we were buying something else, and we found ourselves shopping more because we could. What little money we did manage to save was ate up by moving expenses.
There sincerely is more to life then getting more money for more things. What I have found is it really isn't more money that one needs, but more education on how to manage what you already have. Learning doesn't stop after you graduate from school. I also find that the more we buy, the more we try to ignore what is really wrong within. A mother is unhappy with having to spend much time with children or too little time. A husband is disappointed in his partner and regrets past decisions he has made. Relatives can be emotionally and physically draining. Therefore, one reasons buying stuff will shut up everyone and make them happy. Putting money in someone's hand will do nothing more than place you on their list of potential givers. When that person needs something, he or she knows you got money and will expect you to come to his or her aid.
What more do we need besides money? The answer is life-changing gifts that have no dollar sign. Things like: more love, peace, free time to think deeply, and patience for starters. Our focus should not be inundated with obtaining material things when a relationship is dying, there is war at home or elsewhere, children are doing poorly, and one's mind is often confused or emotionally upset. Money will pay for things, but it can't heal a broken spirit.
Nicholl McGuire, see more of the writer's work on video here.
Thursday
Mistreating Black Men Doesn't Make Them Less Human It Only Makes Them Stronger
Tell a black man not to date outside of his race, be good to his black woman or else, cheat on him, marry then divorce him, fire him, curse at him, lie on him, push him, scream at him, scar him or shoot him down and you do nothing more than win sympathy for him!
Anyone with a little bit of love, compassion, and care for another human being, will run to that person and ask him, "Do you need my help? I will love you...don't worry we will win this war together...I got your back...you can count on me!"
The elite non-black organizations are not as smart as they claim to be. Look at our world to date and someone or group is risking his or her life for a black man--no matter the color, economic status, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Don't believe me? Look at how many thus far have lost their freedom, inconvenienced their lives, and did more for a righteous cause related to a black man. Sure, it was for a cause but black men everywhere will still be affected. If the white power structure thought they were winning by killing yet another unarmed black man, they are mistaken! You might kill the flesh, but you can't kill the spirit!
The black woman is not in the limelight for any particular mind-blowing event these days for good reason, because she is too busy allowing herself to be presented as an entertainment whore! From reality shows to dancing on stage, just open wide so the world can see and experience your goods! If your too old to strut, you can always write or talk about all things nasty with your fellow cast members. Stick out your butt, black woman, and you just might land a romantic evening with a freak with a large bank account. Why not go a little further and encourage little girls to live your puppet dreams? Nevertheless, the lost black woman is affected by what is happening to black men whether she knows the men or not. She has been traumatized yet again especially if there has been violence in her own family. She is forced to work harder, play harder, make that money...you know all the rest because chances are you or someone you know is going through right now. Just as her enslaved ancestors, the black woman is forced to watch someone that looks like her cousin, brother, uncle, or some other male relative go off, fight, be abused, and eventually die. A mother will see her son in all the chaos and grieve for the mother who lost her's. She becomes angry at the parent who wasn't around, the child who was at the wrong place at the wrong time, the peers who didn't have her child's back, the community who could care less, and the authority figures who intend to make some money off her child. But even in her weakness, she too is strong!
Once again an elitist power structure has got it all wrong, coming after the wrong people with the wrong plan. They forgot we still have soldiers fighting spiritual wars not everyone is distracted by tomfoolery and not everyone is hoodwinked either! From infiltrating music to polluting the media with negative imagery of the worst black folks (fools, ignorant, mentally handicapped, on drugs, etc. as if there are no non-blacks that aren't crazy and ghetto), demonic forces are at work again to mentally and physically enslave the spiritual black family--we aren't talking about just any group. By using demonic oppression, traumatic images, and shocking events, the hope is to debilitate the thinking mind. You are doing too well some of you talented, educated, and rich black folks, you knew the haters would work hard to slow your roll and many are falling for it!
The black male is lured into relationships and business partnerships he can't manage, own or control. He is told to pay attention to everything that is wrong with the black woman and call her crazy, stupid, strange, etc. He is convinced he is slicker, smarter, wiser, and more by enablers who are simply using him in the meantime for selfish gain. But let us not get so caught up in blackness that we are no earthly good, shall we?
The mistreatment of black men in front of the world is backfiring to some degree and it has little do with skin tone and a whole lot to do with economics. Businesses suffer, profits decline, and other community related issues and now someone is ready to get the actor off the stage. Sooner or later those that will be enlightened to wisdom will realize that not only is ethnicity and finances are under attack, but there is also a spiritual attack occurring as well so that men, who have been called to come up higher, will lose site of their roles in kingdom business as well as the Creator who called them to their assignments. Projects cost money, new infrastructures more money, rebuilding communities additional finance, and those who hate certain ethnicities prospering, don't want wealthy people building or rebuilding in communities they plan on overtaking. Self interest groups know that many American citizens are awaking. The manipulators know that "buying the best, most expensive, and biggest" type of brainwashing that has been occurring for decades is not working for the upcoming generations. Do you really think the young black man was called to do nothing more than play on fields, courts, and on the street while his earthly father plays servant, snitch or second fiddle to people from the board room to the White House? There are bigger things ahead for those willing to receive and walk in their callings.
Many black people, lacking in critical thinking skills, are so easily distracted by bright colors, shiny things, and devices that make noise that they can't see plots against them, they don't bother to create detailed plans, or study wise books. What better way then to weaken the black man then to put the brightest color skin tone in front of him with the longest hair wearing the brightest colors, but there is one catch, these eye-catchers don't have the brightest minds! Typically the puppet recruits the puppet and the master has them both!
The crème de la crème of their group (the wealthy, white establishment) will always be reserved for the elitists. Don't be mistaken! Sure, the rich non-blacks might convince some to eat from their tables, drink their drinks, have their women, and ride in their cars, but when the fun is over, there are taxes to pay and consequences for sin when you look at things from a spiritual perspective. You reap what you sow! Those that are non-black, privileged and book-smart, but unwise, don't see the matrix of events unfolding, because since birth they have been given much. So when they see blood stained pavement, a long history of abused and deceased black men, as well as cries from the people, it is shocking to their weak systems, "What can we do to help?"
These recent tragic events are drawing on the heartstrings of non-blacks making them more caring. Many will empathize not because a man is black, but due to the fact that he is a human being. A white racist's plan backfires when the white woman begins to care for the black man and his children. However, those looking to create a higher intellect through interracial mating simply shrug their shoulders while white red-necks and ghetto blacks, don't see the big picture. A picture that slowly but surely takes what once was, black man + black woman = black babies and mixes them all up to the point that a black mindset is no more; rather a colorless mindset with the capability to do great things, besides physical labor, emerges. This is a belief of those who want to create super human beings. No more ghetto, ignorance, rude attitudes, emotionalism, spirituality, slavery and poverty mentalities historically popular amongst many blacks is their hope. These are just some of the stereotypical things that some rich and poor black men run from while hoping that their next lover will be different than their last lover--a black woman.
Spiritual black people are a threat to any group! Troublesome blacks are worse and many want them swiftly put in graves. Black fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers just didn't learn valuable lessons or practiced what they learned from the wise when it came to marriage, parenting, religion, business, protest, buying and selling property, etc. Therefore, ill-informed sons lie in graves prematurely having repeated the lifestyles of "too busy to play" kind of dads or absentee fathers. These same workaholics, players, pimps, and hustlers outlive their sons and continue to preach a ghetto gospel with no Savior in view and no useful tools to fight spiritual warfare.
You play with fire, you will get burned! In and out of the church, in and out of someone's bed, in and out of an office, and in and out of traffic, there is no rest for a weary, backsliding, or lost soul. Some spiritual as well as unspiritual blacks play with pagan traditions knowing full well what they represent and take no stand. Meanwhile mistreating one another over things they don't understand. Then when one finds that the devil is real and it is time to pay up for compromises, the brother or sister will throw anyone under the bus for money, fame, position, and power. The mistreated will mistreat his or her own!
The true essence of biblical text hasn't changed, there are still many wise words left to piece the puzzle together between an angry God and a flawed man--no matter the skin tone. But those who think they can disrespect a man, who doesn't want any trouble--minding his own business, especially a spiritual one, will reap what they have sown! This nation doesn't experience much heartache for nothing, too much playing in other people's backyards (bullying others) will get many hurt. Some have said the un-justice, the protesting, the shootings are all happening to prepare us for the fall of our American government leadership. I can't say, but what I will say is there is indeed an unseen war--one that is worth praying about. Consider orchestrating a plan just in case something unbelievable does go down in the coming months; rather than react in the way that "they" will expect you to act when they take out one of their own in any group, from entertainment to government.
Take note of your actions, consider the mistreatment of the black man lately. Will you curse at him, yell, abuse, or use your brother? Notice the times he has done these things to you. The push to get him out of any group, household, or elsewhere becomes great depending on the offenses. The victim has a choice he can walk away, put up a fight, self-destruct, or find greener pasture. Whatever your experience has been with a black man, you know what you did or didn't do to help drive him to that choice.
I caution readers to avoid the pity party during this tough time for our black brothers and also keep away from the temptation to enable them just because you feel threatened by them or worry about what they might do to you. Black men are under trial, not for what they did, but what they don't do. A black man's pride has cost him marriages, children, money, position, car, real estate, friends, and more. When it is all said and done, this less than human status by racists will give many people the strength to come back to their rightful places. What a black man didn't learn from those who marched before him, he will learn from viewing his fallen brother out in the middle of the street.
Em Hotep.
Nicholl McGuire
Anyone with a little bit of love, compassion, and care for another human being, will run to that person and ask him, "Do you need my help? I will love you...don't worry we will win this war together...I got your back...you can count on me!"
The elite non-black organizations are not as smart as they claim to be. Look at our world to date and someone or group is risking his or her life for a black man--no matter the color, economic status, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Don't believe me? Look at how many thus far have lost their freedom, inconvenienced their lives, and did more for a righteous cause related to a black man. Sure, it was for a cause but black men everywhere will still be affected. If the white power structure thought they were winning by killing yet another unarmed black man, they are mistaken! You might kill the flesh, but you can't kill the spirit!
The black woman is not in the limelight for any particular mind-blowing event these days for good reason, because she is too busy allowing herself to be presented as an entertainment whore! From reality shows to dancing on stage, just open wide so the world can see and experience your goods! If your too old to strut, you can always write or talk about all things nasty with your fellow cast members. Stick out your butt, black woman, and you just might land a romantic evening with a freak with a large bank account. Why not go a little further and encourage little girls to live your puppet dreams? Nevertheless, the lost black woman is affected by what is happening to black men whether she knows the men or not. She has been traumatized yet again especially if there has been violence in her own family. She is forced to work harder, play harder, make that money...you know all the rest because chances are you or someone you know is going through right now. Just as her enslaved ancestors, the black woman is forced to watch someone that looks like her cousin, brother, uncle, or some other male relative go off, fight, be abused, and eventually die. A mother will see her son in all the chaos and grieve for the mother who lost her's. She becomes angry at the parent who wasn't around, the child who was at the wrong place at the wrong time, the peers who didn't have her child's back, the community who could care less, and the authority figures who intend to make some money off her child. But even in her weakness, she too is strong!
Once again an elitist power structure has got it all wrong, coming after the wrong people with the wrong plan. They forgot we still have soldiers fighting spiritual wars not everyone is distracted by tomfoolery and not everyone is hoodwinked either! From infiltrating music to polluting the media with negative imagery of the worst black folks (fools, ignorant, mentally handicapped, on drugs, etc. as if there are no non-blacks that aren't crazy and ghetto), demonic forces are at work again to mentally and physically enslave the spiritual black family--we aren't talking about just any group. By using demonic oppression, traumatic images, and shocking events, the hope is to debilitate the thinking mind. You are doing too well some of you talented, educated, and rich black folks, you knew the haters would work hard to slow your roll and many are falling for it!
The black male is lured into relationships and business partnerships he can't manage, own or control. He is told to pay attention to everything that is wrong with the black woman and call her crazy, stupid, strange, etc. He is convinced he is slicker, smarter, wiser, and more by enablers who are simply using him in the meantime for selfish gain. But let us not get so caught up in blackness that we are no earthly good, shall we?
The mistreatment of black men in front of the world is backfiring to some degree and it has little do with skin tone and a whole lot to do with economics. Businesses suffer, profits decline, and other community related issues and now someone is ready to get the actor off the stage. Sooner or later those that will be enlightened to wisdom will realize that not only is ethnicity and finances are under attack, but there is also a spiritual attack occurring as well so that men, who have been called to come up higher, will lose site of their roles in kingdom business as well as the Creator who called them to their assignments. Projects cost money, new infrastructures more money, rebuilding communities additional finance, and those who hate certain ethnicities prospering, don't want wealthy people building or rebuilding in communities they plan on overtaking. Self interest groups know that many American citizens are awaking. The manipulators know that "buying the best, most expensive, and biggest" type of brainwashing that has been occurring for decades is not working for the upcoming generations. Do you really think the young black man was called to do nothing more than play on fields, courts, and on the street while his earthly father plays servant, snitch or second fiddle to people from the board room to the White House? There are bigger things ahead for those willing to receive and walk in their callings.
Many black people, lacking in critical thinking skills, are so easily distracted by bright colors, shiny things, and devices that make noise that they can't see plots against them, they don't bother to create detailed plans, or study wise books. What better way then to weaken the black man then to put the brightest color skin tone in front of him with the longest hair wearing the brightest colors, but there is one catch, these eye-catchers don't have the brightest minds! Typically the puppet recruits the puppet and the master has them both!
The crème de la crème of their group (the wealthy, white establishment) will always be reserved for the elitists. Don't be mistaken! Sure, the rich non-blacks might convince some to eat from their tables, drink their drinks, have their women, and ride in their cars, but when the fun is over, there are taxes to pay and consequences for sin when you look at things from a spiritual perspective. You reap what you sow! Those that are non-black, privileged and book-smart, but unwise, don't see the matrix of events unfolding, because since birth they have been given much. So when they see blood stained pavement, a long history of abused and deceased black men, as well as cries from the people, it is shocking to their weak systems, "What can we do to help?"
These recent tragic events are drawing on the heartstrings of non-blacks making them more caring. Many will empathize not because a man is black, but due to the fact that he is a human being. A white racist's plan backfires when the white woman begins to care for the black man and his children. However, those looking to create a higher intellect through interracial mating simply shrug their shoulders while white red-necks and ghetto blacks, don't see the big picture. A picture that slowly but surely takes what once was, black man + black woman = black babies and mixes them all up to the point that a black mindset is no more; rather a colorless mindset with the capability to do great things, besides physical labor, emerges. This is a belief of those who want to create super human beings. No more ghetto, ignorance, rude attitudes, emotionalism, spirituality, slavery and poverty mentalities historically popular amongst many blacks is their hope. These are just some of the stereotypical things that some rich and poor black men run from while hoping that their next lover will be different than their last lover--a black woman.
Spiritual black people are a threat to any group! Troublesome blacks are worse and many want them swiftly put in graves. Black fathers, grandfathers, and great grandfathers just didn't learn valuable lessons or practiced what they learned from the wise when it came to marriage, parenting, religion, business, protest, buying and selling property, etc. Therefore, ill-informed sons lie in graves prematurely having repeated the lifestyles of "too busy to play" kind of dads or absentee fathers. These same workaholics, players, pimps, and hustlers outlive their sons and continue to preach a ghetto gospel with no Savior in view and no useful tools to fight spiritual warfare.
You play with fire, you will get burned! In and out of the church, in and out of someone's bed, in and out of an office, and in and out of traffic, there is no rest for a weary, backsliding, or lost soul. Some spiritual as well as unspiritual blacks play with pagan traditions knowing full well what they represent and take no stand. Meanwhile mistreating one another over things they don't understand. Then when one finds that the devil is real and it is time to pay up for compromises, the brother or sister will throw anyone under the bus for money, fame, position, and power. The mistreated will mistreat his or her own!
The true essence of biblical text hasn't changed, there are still many wise words left to piece the puzzle together between an angry God and a flawed man--no matter the skin tone. But those who think they can disrespect a man, who doesn't want any trouble--minding his own business, especially a spiritual one, will reap what they have sown! This nation doesn't experience much heartache for nothing, too much playing in other people's backyards (bullying others) will get many hurt. Some have said the un-justice, the protesting, the shootings are all happening to prepare us for the fall of our American government leadership. I can't say, but what I will say is there is indeed an unseen war--one that is worth praying about. Consider orchestrating a plan just in case something unbelievable does go down in the coming months; rather than react in the way that "they" will expect you to act when they take out one of their own in any group, from entertainment to government.
Take note of your actions, consider the mistreatment of the black man lately. Will you curse at him, yell, abuse, or use your brother? Notice the times he has done these things to you. The push to get him out of any group, household, or elsewhere becomes great depending on the offenses. The victim has a choice he can walk away, put up a fight, self-destruct, or find greener pasture. Whatever your experience has been with a black man, you know what you did or didn't do to help drive him to that choice.
I caution readers to avoid the pity party during this tough time for our black brothers and also keep away from the temptation to enable them just because you feel threatened by them or worry about what they might do to you. Black men are under trial, not for what they did, but what they don't do. A black man's pride has cost him marriages, children, money, position, car, real estate, friends, and more. When it is all said and done, this less than human status by racists will give many people the strength to come back to their rightful places. What a black man didn't learn from those who marched before him, he will learn from viewing his fallen brother out in the middle of the street.
Em Hotep.
Nicholl McGuire
Wednesday
Sunday
The Narcissist
The Narcissist is a poem by self-published author and web content producer Nicholl McGuire.
If you are a single woman, then most likely you have ran into this kind of man. Enjoy!
If you are a single woman, then most likely you have ran into this kind of man. Enjoy!
Tuesday
Cosby Would Have Been a Bold Voice in the Community About Ferguson
An actor with decades of experience in the entertainment industry, a father figure, and opinionated when it came to speaking real truth about our people, Bill Cosby could have, should have, and would have had something to say about Ferguson. He lost a son via a shooting. Some said he sold out for fame many years ago and others looked at past events and called them "unfortunate, disappointing..." But whatever the personal view on all that has recently come out full throttle about Cosby, he and his connections would have been significant in organizing protests, pushing agendas toward change, and getting the attention of those in powerful positions. He could have got other entertainers on board--those not fearful of the establishment, uncaring about the elite power structure in the entertainment industry, and too old to worry about what "they think..." But...
What is in darkness comes out in the light sooner or later, doesn't it? At a time when once again the African American community is being attacked by unseen organizations using triggers like: interracial relationships between white women and black men paraded in mass media, civil disobedience, gun violence, whore images, animal references, and big, scary black man related stuff, those that could speak out against such psychological tactics are shut down before they can even think about protesting.
People of all ethnicities would have listened to what Cosby had to say and may have joined a movement (if he had one) when it came to black family issues and how stereotypical images are still prevalent in media whether overt or covert. The root of the matter wasn't with the young man lying face down in the street, the real issues was what led up to him walking in the street in the first place--taking a chance with his life. Our parents warned many of us, "Don't play out in the street!" There was a far deeper meaning to what they said then we realized. Being out in the street puts you in the wrong place at the wrong time. Many black males and females have gone to early graves due to being idle--having nothing to do but roam the streets.
What few bold African American speakers who have national as well as international attention due to movies, music, art and more they have done, are quiet. Understandably so, entertainers can't use their platforms to move any personal agendas without compromising their contracts. They can't say what they want when they want that is why most remain silent when major issues happen. If all folks (not just blacks) would stop watching their movies, buying their music, wearing their clothing, and supporting these quiet folks, both white and black, maybe they would convince their superiors "...that it isn't in the best interest of my career to remain quiet on issues that my fans obviously care about." Rather than sing praises about their work, how about bombard their social networking accounts with the hard questions like: What do you think about...and why haven't you said anything...and didn't you do a movie about...how do you feel now?"
But those in powerful positions know full well what an impact an entertainer will have on a community; therefore, they silence them. "Keep quiet or else. Your opinion is not needed. Don't get yourself involved...you are doing well in your career, don't mess it up siding with those ignorant, ghetto folks."
I shudder at the thought that one day it will take the murder of an A-list black celebrity over a senseless act by a white person for the outcry to be strong enough for law-makers to want to do some things differently. We aren't talking about playing with civil rights, testing new equipment, changing the face of the police department in a local area, and other related agendas, but a closer look at how to deal with the racist, money-hungry fraternal groups that still govern various communities. What would happen if their hearts and pockets were hit all at once?
So it is safe to say that Cosby (as well as others) would have been a good speaker to ease tensions when it came to Ferguson and might have done well influencing the African American communities all across our land to pause and think before they reacted to the court ruling, but some group thought of that beforehand.
On a side note: these celebrities are given the green light to talk about voting knowing full well the outcomes are predetermined, but they can't do much else then to send a careful tweet or some sign language when it comes to real issues!
Nicholl McGuire
What is in darkness comes out in the light sooner or later, doesn't it? At a time when once again the African American community is being attacked by unseen organizations using triggers like: interracial relationships between white women and black men paraded in mass media, civil disobedience, gun violence, whore images, animal references, and big, scary black man related stuff, those that could speak out against such psychological tactics are shut down before they can even think about protesting.
People of all ethnicities would have listened to what Cosby had to say and may have joined a movement (if he had one) when it came to black family issues and how stereotypical images are still prevalent in media whether overt or covert. The root of the matter wasn't with the young man lying face down in the street, the real issues was what led up to him walking in the street in the first place--taking a chance with his life. Our parents warned many of us, "Don't play out in the street!" There was a far deeper meaning to what they said then we realized. Being out in the street puts you in the wrong place at the wrong time. Many black males and females have gone to early graves due to being idle--having nothing to do but roam the streets.
What few bold African American speakers who have national as well as international attention due to movies, music, art and more they have done, are quiet. Understandably so, entertainers can't use their platforms to move any personal agendas without compromising their contracts. They can't say what they want when they want that is why most remain silent when major issues happen. If all folks (not just blacks) would stop watching their movies, buying their music, wearing their clothing, and supporting these quiet folks, both white and black, maybe they would convince their superiors "...that it isn't in the best interest of my career to remain quiet on issues that my fans obviously care about." Rather than sing praises about their work, how about bombard their social networking accounts with the hard questions like: What do you think about...and why haven't you said anything...and didn't you do a movie about...how do you feel now?"
But those in powerful positions know full well what an impact an entertainer will have on a community; therefore, they silence them. "Keep quiet or else. Your opinion is not needed. Don't get yourself involved...you are doing well in your career, don't mess it up siding with those ignorant, ghetto folks."
I shudder at the thought that one day it will take the murder of an A-list black celebrity over a senseless act by a white person for the outcry to be strong enough for law-makers to want to do some things differently. We aren't talking about playing with civil rights, testing new equipment, changing the face of the police department in a local area, and other related agendas, but a closer look at how to deal with the racist, money-hungry fraternal groups that still govern various communities. What would happen if their hearts and pockets were hit all at once?
So it is safe to say that Cosby (as well as others) would have been a good speaker to ease tensions when it came to Ferguson and might have done well influencing the African American communities all across our land to pause and think before they reacted to the court ruling, but some group thought of that beforehand.
On a side note: these celebrities are given the green light to talk about voting knowing full well the outcomes are predetermined, but they can't do much else then to send a careful tweet or some sign language when it comes to real issues!
Nicholl McGuire
Monday
The Rise of Prejudice Feelings
There are times when I am prejudice, angry, and wish not to speak to someone who can't relate to being black. The stirring of these emotions usually takes place when I see yet another image of someone or something that is simply wrong, or I experience unfair treatment because of a non-black's superiority complex or preconceived notions of who he or she thinks I am.
From a young black male gunned down by a white police officer to yet another black male marrying for opportunity, what I thought was long put away, shows up in prejudice feelings. The stomach churns, the attitude on my face frowns, and the need to be anywhere but where I am when I see the foolishness before my eyes rises up.
I contemplated this issue of prejudice not that long ago and I was disappointed with myself. After years of feeling like I was colorless and content with just being a human being, a series of events reminded me once again of that black girl looking back at me in the mirror. The one who helped grandma clean rich white folks homes, who dated someone for years who wasn't black, who lived in a dorm with three white young women, and who also lived with a white family for almost a year. Where were these feelings coming from like: anger, sadness, and bitterness over issues in media that had nothing to do with me? I had learned from white people, been blessed by them, and partnered with them personally and professionally, but...
I reflected back on what I said many times before on this blog and elsewhere, the manipulation of news media brainwashing is indeed alive and well. Its focus is to get us to do things that will further hidden agendas by those who are beyond prejudice, but racist to the core! Remind me enough times that I am everything but a human being and I will begin to hate the ones who keep telling me the same thing over and over again. But what is intelligent about controlling one's mind to act prejudice-- to the point of creating chaos-- is that the ones who are doing the most oppressing doesn't look like "them--those white people"rather, they are black people doing it to black people. They are trained puppet masters spreading the poison they have been fed through all sorts of media outlets. They say and do things to arise the prejudice within. If I don't want to talk about so-called black issues, they are going to say things in such a way to make me want to talk about black issues. If I don't want to be a part of the black group, they are going to remind me why I can't get into the white group. If I want to make some changes and step out of my comfort zone, they are going to tell me why I won't be a success because of this white person, white group, white location, white whatever!
So I go back to the drawing board of ridding myself of the ugliness that comes with being prejudice. Usually this consists of shutting off all negative media related to black issues. Avoiding conversation with angry black folks. Keeping away from ignorant people of all ethnicities that feel they are authorized to comment on things just because they know someone who is black.
Prejudice rears its ugly head when someone that doesn't look like you comes around. The expectation that a non-black is going to say or do something that is going to anger you is ever present when you are prejudice. Then of course, the distrust of "those people"--never knowing what they are up to even when they could care less about you--but prejudice creates a degree of paranoia. Prejudice is also prevalent when you don't agree with what you see in front of you or when you suspect that someone is favoring a person over you. The negativity is binding and keeps you from experiencing true freedom mentally, physically and spiritually. While others enjoy their lives, a prejudice person is limiting his or herself because of what he or she has been through; therefore, the past dictates the present and the future.
So my hope is that we all look beyond the mind control of media, keep our minds intact no matter what tragedy is ahead for yet another black person, and most of all, remind ourselves that not everyone is evil.
Nicholl McGuire
From a young black male gunned down by a white police officer to yet another black male marrying for opportunity, what I thought was long put away, shows up in prejudice feelings. The stomach churns, the attitude on my face frowns, and the need to be anywhere but where I am when I see the foolishness before my eyes rises up.
I contemplated this issue of prejudice not that long ago and I was disappointed with myself. After years of feeling like I was colorless and content with just being a human being, a series of events reminded me once again of that black girl looking back at me in the mirror. The one who helped grandma clean rich white folks homes, who dated someone for years who wasn't black, who lived in a dorm with three white young women, and who also lived with a white family for almost a year. Where were these feelings coming from like: anger, sadness, and bitterness over issues in media that had nothing to do with me? I had learned from white people, been blessed by them, and partnered with them personally and professionally, but...
I reflected back on what I said many times before on this blog and elsewhere, the manipulation of news media brainwashing is indeed alive and well. Its focus is to get us to do things that will further hidden agendas by those who are beyond prejudice, but racist to the core! Remind me enough times that I am everything but a human being and I will begin to hate the ones who keep telling me the same thing over and over again. But what is intelligent about controlling one's mind to act prejudice-- to the point of creating chaos-- is that the ones who are doing the most oppressing doesn't look like "them--those white people"rather, they are black people doing it to black people. They are trained puppet masters spreading the poison they have been fed through all sorts of media outlets. They say and do things to arise the prejudice within. If I don't want to talk about so-called black issues, they are going to say things in such a way to make me want to talk about black issues. If I don't want to be a part of the black group, they are going to remind me why I can't get into the white group. If I want to make some changes and step out of my comfort zone, they are going to tell me why I won't be a success because of this white person, white group, white location, white whatever!
So I go back to the drawing board of ridding myself of the ugliness that comes with being prejudice. Usually this consists of shutting off all negative media related to black issues. Avoiding conversation with angry black folks. Keeping away from ignorant people of all ethnicities that feel they are authorized to comment on things just because they know someone who is black.
Prejudice rears its ugly head when someone that doesn't look like you comes around. The expectation that a non-black is going to say or do something that is going to anger you is ever present when you are prejudice. Then of course, the distrust of "those people"--never knowing what they are up to even when they could care less about you--but prejudice creates a degree of paranoia. Prejudice is also prevalent when you don't agree with what you see in front of you or when you suspect that someone is favoring a person over you. The negativity is binding and keeps you from experiencing true freedom mentally, physically and spiritually. While others enjoy their lives, a prejudice person is limiting his or herself because of what he or she has been through; therefore, the past dictates the present and the future.
So my hope is that we all look beyond the mind control of media, keep our minds intact no matter what tragedy is ahead for yet another black person, and most of all, remind ourselves that not everyone is evil.
Nicholl McGuire
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