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What More Do You Need Besides Money?

If you ask most people around you what they need, they would say, "More money."  But can I tell you from personal experience, when the money comes, it goes and you only end up wishing for more.


Some years back an opportunity came to my household that our family was ecstatic about.  It required relocating and settling in an area that was laid back, rarely any traffic, no major stores within walking distance, and no buses or taxi cabs nearby.  Police and fire vehicles were hardly ever seen or heard.  It was a nice suburban environment with rural surroundings nearby (i.e.) fields, cattle and a lake.  The draw for us city folks, from Los Angeles County, going there, money!


Now we were not exactly comfortable with such simple living in a small town in Georgia, and we also weren't use to having to rely on a vehicle to go to most places either.  There was an unspoken objection about being there, but no one in the family said anything initially even though mannerisms said otherwise.  As challenges increased what appeared to be a good opportunity was turning into a wilderness experience.  We dealt with insects of all shapes and sizes that liked to come and visit us every time a door or window was opened.  We were often exhausted from the heat.  We noticed people ate and drank too much and we became fearful that their laziness was rubbing off on us.  Irritability, boredom, and other issues increased, but we rejected the red alert signs that told us, "This atmosphere really isn't for you, go back to what you are used to."  Rather, we focused on the money, the spacious house, and a huge backyard for the kids--simple living...that was our motivation for coping. 


Less than three years later, the opportunity turned sour and we headed back to where we started out, back to our beloved busy town in So-Cal with many apartment buildings, small homes and laughable so-called backyards.  It was home, we had no business leaving in the first place.  Looking back, I realized that our wilderness experience was not one we really needed, but it did teach us a simple lesson from simple living, "Be appreciative of what you already got."   Having more money, a house and new gadgets didn't make us feel any better in the long term.  We didn't treat one another any better, we didn't act grateful for anything before we were buying something else, and we found ourselves shopping more because we could.  What little money we did manage to save was ate up by moving expenses.


There sincerely is more to life then getting more money for more things.  What I have found is it really isn't more money that one needs, but more education on how to manage what you already have.  Learning doesn't stop after you graduate from school.  I also find that the more we buy, the more we try to ignore what is really wrong within.  A mother is unhappy with having to spend much time with children or too little time.  A husband is disappointed in his partner and regrets past decisions he has made.  Relatives can be emotionally and physically draining.  Therefore, one reasons buying stuff will shut up everyone and make them happy.  Putting money in someone's hand will do nothing more than place you on their list of potential givers.  When that person needs something, he or she knows you got money and will expect you to come to his or her aid.


What more do we need besides money?   The answer is life-changing gifts that have no dollar sign.  Things like:  more love, peace, free time to think deeply, and patience for starters.  Our focus should not be inundated with obtaining material things when a relationship is dying, there is war at home or elsewhere, children are doing poorly, and one's mind is often confused or emotionally upset.  Money will pay for things, but it can't heal a broken spirit.


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