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Programmed Not to Believe What You See, Hear, Taste and Smell
There are some things you might be doing and saying that show just how programmed you really are by what others think like parents for starters, employers, friends, society, government and more. Check this list of signs and start working to deprogram yourself from negative thinking and other thoughts that keep you bound to toxic systems, beliefs, people, etc.
1. You have a long history of being told by relatives to keep quiet, say nothing, mind your own business, and other similar statements and you do just that without challenging anyone no matter how wrong they are. This still goes on to date with the associations you belong to, your family members and friends.
2. You are fearful to rock the boat because in the past you were repeatedly warned what the consequences might be if you do. So even now, rather than speak truth, you say nothing or work around it.
3. Whenever you mention something new, different, thought-provoking, or intelligent to a partner or other family members they look at you with a dumb look, criticize you, make a joke out of it, or ignore you. You find yourself careful to avoid certain topics because you have been treated poorly by others and worry over possibly starting an argument. You are running out of things to talk about as a result.
4. You go along just to get along even when you know you shouldn't because you don't want to black-balled or disrespected.
5. You are fearful of stating an opinion that doesn't go along with how the majority around you feels and you teach others to do the same. "Shhh!"is your motto.
6. You find yourself behaving sneakily, exaggerating, lying or covering up your feelings with a partner and other people. You don't care what your behavior does to others because "they said..."
7. If someone says something stinks, tastes awful, or looks strange even though you disagree, you fake like you agree anyway and then tell others something else. You have been told in so many words, "You are fake...a liar...shady."
8. You go along with unpopular opinion or controversial teachings given to you by others because you were offended by a person or specific group even though the people are well-meaning. You don't bother to research or question why you are so angry, hateful or easily offended by those that you oppose.
9. You take far too many things personal just like--you fill in the blank. You are told you act just like a certain person.
10. You get mixed up into things that have nothing to do with you. You claim you are being loyal to friends, but within you know what you are doing or saying to defend your social circle is downright stupid.
11. When you receive any kind of truth, even with the evidence right in front of you, you deny it just because you don't like who is delivering it. You make a point to find fault, bad-mouth and disagree.
Brainwashed people behave like this especially around their favorite people. Folks like this who don't bother to further their understanding about a possible life-changing subject, come up with excuses. They are easy targets for media manipulation, parental manipulation, entertainment toxic programming, spousal abuse, government lies and cover ups, scammers on and offline, hustlers, pimps, and more.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and She's Crazy.
1. You have a long history of being told by relatives to keep quiet, say nothing, mind your own business, and other similar statements and you do just that without challenging anyone no matter how wrong they are. This still goes on to date with the associations you belong to, your family members and friends.
2. You are fearful to rock the boat because in the past you were repeatedly warned what the consequences might be if you do. So even now, rather than speak truth, you say nothing or work around it.
3. Whenever you mention something new, different, thought-provoking, or intelligent to a partner or other family members they look at you with a dumb look, criticize you, make a joke out of it, or ignore you. You find yourself careful to avoid certain topics because you have been treated poorly by others and worry over possibly starting an argument. You are running out of things to talk about as a result.
4. You go along just to get along even when you know you shouldn't because you don't want to black-balled or disrespected.
5. You are fearful of stating an opinion that doesn't go along with how the majority around you feels and you teach others to do the same. "Shhh!"is your motto.
6. You find yourself behaving sneakily, exaggerating, lying or covering up your feelings with a partner and other people. You don't care what your behavior does to others because "they said..."
7. If someone says something stinks, tastes awful, or looks strange even though you disagree, you fake like you agree anyway and then tell others something else. You have been told in so many words, "You are fake...a liar...shady."
8. You go along with unpopular opinion or controversial teachings given to you by others because you were offended by a person or specific group even though the people are well-meaning. You don't bother to research or question why you are so angry, hateful or easily offended by those that you oppose.
9. You take far too many things personal just like--you fill in the blank. You are told you act just like a certain person.
10. You get mixed up into things that have nothing to do with you. You claim you are being loyal to friends, but within you know what you are doing or saying to defend your social circle is downright stupid.
11. When you receive any kind of truth, even with the evidence right in front of you, you deny it just because you don't like who is delivering it. You make a point to find fault, bad-mouth and disagree.
Brainwashed people behave like this especially around their favorite people. Folks like this who don't bother to further their understanding about a possible life-changing subject, come up with excuses. They are easy targets for media manipulation, parental manipulation, entertainment toxic programming, spousal abuse, government lies and cover ups, scammers on and offline, hustlers, pimps, and more.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men and She's Crazy.
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Black People Have White Issues Too
The ignorance is like a disease, it spreads and eventually eats up what little common sense one has. The more people believe stereotypes, myths, and other information designed to negatively brainwash, the more they remain emotionally, physically and spiritually bound in their messes! Our people are troubled by relationship woes, money blues, and bodily issues that rob them of a relationship with their Creator, love, personal joy and freedom from toxic people and things that hold them back from accomplishing dreams.
Black people have issues just like whites and others. As much as pride might convince them otherwise, they have their share of dramas and traumas. One isn't as strong as he or she thinks when the individual continues to do the same insane things while hoping for different results. Generational mistakes go forth poisoning the next generation and the next. Poor eating habits, recreational drug use, a lack of interest in education, and more is what keeps the ignorant cycle going about a variety of things among our people. If you don't want to read a book about an issue, how do you change? If you don't want to get around people better than yourself, then where is the motivation to do anything different? If you choose to be more negative than positive, then when do you ever see the light and make a difference not only in your life but others?
Some black people will blame white people for their woes. They will talk about the systematic plans they have constructed to keep people oppressed. This is true in some cases but not all. Oftentimes it is our own people who keep one another down! They are mind controlled by any number of factors and rather than seek breakthrough they choose to act stubbornly while fault-finding and excuse-making. "Well if it wasn't for my health, I would...I would know more if my parents would have...I could be able to do so much if only I had more money." Saying the same old tired statements that their elders said before them who had far less than they currently do, it isn't any wonder why some don't move any further than they do from the couch to the kitchen!
White folks get tired of being blamed, shamed, critiqued and more about things they either had something to do with or not. At some point one's focus should be on self and what are you able to do right now to get the results that you want--what is in your power? There are non-blacks who struggle just like you and I. They aren't special, that smart, or have much to keep anyone back. They are accused of things that they simply have no power or control to do! Yet, if you keep giving them credit for things that have nothing to do with them, guess what they might do? They may take what they have learned use it as motivation to become empowered and then one day establish tactics that they are falsely accused of to enslave! How many times is one going to be blamed before he or she turns around like a mad dog and bite you?
Look at some of the things over past decades that a number of blacks have that they are delusional about while claiming that is "a white people issue" or blaming the white man.
1) Personality disorders.
2) Poor financial investments.
3) Serving and loving other gods.
4) Sickness and disease.
5) Perverted sexual acts.
6) Satanic worship.
7) College debt.
8) White collar crime.
9) Interracial dating challenges.
10) Self-righteousness in the church. "We are better than they" philosophies.
11) Personal prejudices.
12) Being mistreated in foreign countries.
And the list goes on. Every subject has a lot to do with choice and taking the initiative to get the necessary resources to cope or fix a situation. As more and more blacks learn things that whites have primarily known about for centuries, they too will have their trials. They will find they have more in common with many whites than they do with blacks they grew up with, simply because they broadened their horizons. However, everything comes with a price/consequence and the more you know, the more you are responsible for. This is why many of our elders preferred ignorance than enlightenment because they didn't need anymore problems than they already had. Of course, that is no excuse. You weigh the pros and cons of all things and utilize what you can to help you and others you care about. You learn to rise above trials, rather than complain about them.
Nicholl is the author of Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic
Black people have issues just like whites and others. As much as pride might convince them otherwise, they have their share of dramas and traumas. One isn't as strong as he or she thinks when the individual continues to do the same insane things while hoping for different results. Generational mistakes go forth poisoning the next generation and the next. Poor eating habits, recreational drug use, a lack of interest in education, and more is what keeps the ignorant cycle going about a variety of things among our people. If you don't want to read a book about an issue, how do you change? If you don't want to get around people better than yourself, then where is the motivation to do anything different? If you choose to be more negative than positive, then when do you ever see the light and make a difference not only in your life but others?
Some black people will blame white people for their woes. They will talk about the systematic plans they have constructed to keep people oppressed. This is true in some cases but not all. Oftentimes it is our own people who keep one another down! They are mind controlled by any number of factors and rather than seek breakthrough they choose to act stubbornly while fault-finding and excuse-making. "Well if it wasn't for my health, I would...I would know more if my parents would have...I could be able to do so much if only I had more money." Saying the same old tired statements that their elders said before them who had far less than they currently do, it isn't any wonder why some don't move any further than they do from the couch to the kitchen!
White folks get tired of being blamed, shamed, critiqued and more about things they either had something to do with or not. At some point one's focus should be on self and what are you able to do right now to get the results that you want--what is in your power? There are non-blacks who struggle just like you and I. They aren't special, that smart, or have much to keep anyone back. They are accused of things that they simply have no power or control to do! Yet, if you keep giving them credit for things that have nothing to do with them, guess what they might do? They may take what they have learned use it as motivation to become empowered and then one day establish tactics that they are falsely accused of to enslave! How many times is one going to be blamed before he or she turns around like a mad dog and bite you?
Look at some of the things over past decades that a number of blacks have that they are delusional about while claiming that is "a white people issue" or blaming the white man.
1) Personality disorders.
2) Poor financial investments.
3) Serving and loving other gods.
4) Sickness and disease.
5) Perverted sexual acts.
6) Satanic worship.
7) College debt.
8) White collar crime.
9) Interracial dating challenges.
10) Self-righteousness in the church. "We are better than they" philosophies.
11) Personal prejudices.
12) Being mistreated in foreign countries.
And the list goes on. Every subject has a lot to do with choice and taking the initiative to get the necessary resources to cope or fix a situation. As more and more blacks learn things that whites have primarily known about for centuries, they too will have their trials. They will find they have more in common with many whites than they do with blacks they grew up with, simply because they broadened their horizons. However, everything comes with a price/consequence and the more you know, the more you are responsible for. This is why many of our elders preferred ignorance than enlightenment because they didn't need anymore problems than they already had. Of course, that is no excuse. You weigh the pros and cons of all things and utilize what you can to help you and others you care about. You learn to rise above trials, rather than complain about them.
Nicholl is the author of Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic
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