Consider this, believe in an angry, misguided, or an ignorant someone long enough and in time you are living a miserable existence. Your dreams take a back seat to what your elders want for you. Your relationship with someone special or marriage gradually comes to an end. Your economic status begins to plummet. Your lifestyle changes to suit that person. Your children are caught up in lies, exaggerations and confusion aided by what you choose to share with them from your revolutionist Cousin, player Uncle, hustler Mama, or pimp Daddy.

Now this reacting to things that offend us or rather offend others is not always representative of our reality. Sure, we might get angry over how others were or are treated, but take a pause before you lose your cool, "Is this really my fight?" I mean we have a lot to be disappointed, upset or even confused about already just in our own daily living, so why take on more drama especially from others who lived a terrible past?
Years ago a relative shared how he was mistreated by white people. He went into detail about the insults he had heard and explained why he would never support interracial marriage, trust white-dominated government, and how he would never consider any of them a friend. He talked of putting on an act in the workplace and how he couldn't wait to retire. His anger rubbed off on some of us and before long we were behaving like we had been mistreated by whites and other non-blacks. We hadn't went through any "Colored Only" doors or sat in the back seat of a bus by force. We had not experienced being chased by white people bragging about their KKK affiliation. We had not encountered any mistreatment from the police. So how was another's hate considered wise counsel? The relative refused to support any of us mentally, financially, spiritually, etc. when our thinking began to differ from his. We were walking in love, he chose to remain in his hate. If anything, the relative became increasingly distant when we talked positively and exposed his misconceptions and bias. He continued to talk negatively about us for making all kinds of decisions that had little to do with keeping up his hate he claimed was just enlightening us.
The elders systematic unhealthy brainwashing does nothing more than keep us divided and in the long term destroys what little peace, love, and increase we have! If you choose to permit a broken man or woman to continue to speak evil in your ears, treat you like he or she has been mistreated, and persuade you into supporting an organization or belief system based on their unresolved issues, you will become just as sick, if not more like that elderly relative failing in health. The best thing you can do for yourself and members of your own family is to stand firm in a healthy belief system that progresses your family forward and establish boundaries for those who like to spread ignorant group think. This ignorant group think has spread over decades in music, film, print, and more only producing carbon copies of people who are stagnant in wisdom, knowledge and understanding. They are buffoons--silly, and foolish in their ways and so too are their children. Yet, they wonder why they are generationally cursed by a mighty God.
While we talk about what non-blacks have done to oppress us, some of our people need to expose those in their own families and communities who continue to support destructive pride, prejudice and foolishness!
May the elder haters one day rest in peace.
Nicholl McGuire
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