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Mama Stop Combing My Hair!

When we were younger many of us, African Americans, got our hair combed by someone who had little patience and even less money to get us the quality hair products that could detangle our hair in an instant.  We suffered through all the hair pulling, hot comb dropping, and cursing we received from some who claimed they loved us, but we had a hard time believing that by our teen years.

By the time we had enough courage to say, "Mama stop combing my hair, I can do it myself!" it was almost time to get a job and move.  Life wasn't always easy being a child with, dare I say it, nappy hair even if it wasn't that bad.  But any hair that wasn't bone straight in the black community--that is where the comb didn't go straight through--and lacked a jaw-dropping wave pattern was considered "nappy, ugly, hard to deal with hair."  I can still hear mama, grandma and uncle saying, "Hold your head still..." while my head hurted from all the tugging due to straightening, braiding, blow drying, etc."

So as I write this, I couldn't help but think that from the top of many of our heads to the soles of our feet we were programmed early to hate what God created.  A nappy head with facial features that weren't considered attractive by non-blacks  was talked about.  Pimples on a face with a big or small behind was talked about.  Big teeth, little breasts, dark skin, white-looking skin, or wide hips, it didn't matter what it was or who owned it, you were talked about badly. 

Even now, the insecure black individual who has yet to rid his or herself of the family's name-calling is attacking others before he or she is attacked.  They are rushing to hurt someone with their ugly names only further perpetuating a negative history.  You can't help but think a person is unattractive when they have a nasty attitude and evil words to go along with features they may or may not be nice to look at in one's sight.

Consider this, just as we got the courage one day to tell mama, "I can do my own hair!"  Why not, have the same courage to speak something positive over your own head?  From the one managing your household to the leader at work as well as yourself.  Speak positively about yourself and others.  Find strengths not weaknesses especially those that can't be helped! 

Here's an example, "I might have this challenge, but I will fix it the best way I can...I might not be in the best mood today to take care of my tasks, but I will do them anyway with my Creator's help...God give me the patience and love to help others."  What if mama had this type of attitude before, during and after she did our hai?.  What if she chose to change her state of mind.  What if she had put some money away to buy the right products to help us overcome our hair problems?  What if mama took the time to read and figure out what to do about our challenging hair?  Apply this example to something you might be grappling with or someone else who you love.

We don't have to follow in anyone's footsteps before us.  Choose to be different!  Come up higher and stop letting mama and them do your hair when you can do it yourself!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Floral Beauty on a Dead End Street.  Available as an e-book and printed book.

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