Sometimes prior to meeting with family, we need to take a pause, self-reflect and pray. There will be those in the group who will have their share of challenges. So here are seven things to keep in mind.
1. Some relatives have undiagnosed mental health issues. They will not change without some additional help so we either deal with them or we don't. There is no set rule that you or your family members have to tolerate someone who refuses to deal with his or her issues.
2. Not everyone likes or loves being around one another especially around the holiday, so respect it.
3. There isn't a day that doesn't go by that a child isn't grieving a beloved relative especially during holidays, so be compassionate.
4. You are not the only one who doesn't want to be bothered, so stay home.
5. If there was ever a good time to practice what your minister preached to you is during family events like that speech he gave the congregation about guard your mouths for starters.
6. Never assume that because you did someone a favor it will be returned by the same person, but don't assume he or she won't ever think of you either. You never know who might surprise you!
7. The true definition of "family" is up to the individual, so avoid judgment especially when you nor I were there during critical times in their lives.
When we think of others' plights rather than how people make us feel, we aren't so easily upset and are better able to deal with challenging situations.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Should I Go to the Party? and other books. You can listen to wise teachings here.
1. Some relatives have undiagnosed mental health issues. They will not change without some additional help so we either deal with them or we don't. There is no set rule that you or your family members have to tolerate someone who refuses to deal with his or her issues.
2. Not everyone likes or loves being around one another especially around the holiday, so respect it.
3. There isn't a day that doesn't go by that a child isn't grieving a beloved relative especially during holidays, so be compassionate.
4. You are not the only one who doesn't want to be bothered, so stay home.
5. If there was ever a good time to practice what your minister preached to you is during family events like that speech he gave the congregation about guard your mouths for starters.
6. Never assume that because you did someone a favor it will be returned by the same person, but don't assume he or she won't ever think of you either. You never know who might surprise you!
7. The true definition of "family" is up to the individual, so avoid judgment especially when you nor I were there during critical times in their lives.
When we think of others' plights rather than how people make us feel, we aren't so easily upset and are better able to deal with challenging situations.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Should I Go to the Party? and other books. You can listen to wise teachings here.
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